tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-63965160101208024222024-03-13T10:54:20.170-07:00Ask MiyokoFirst time using a Vibrator? Do you think that it will take away your sensitivity? Want to know how to get your partner to try something new? Ask Miyoko!Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-55402821363206137302020-01-21T13:51:00.000-08:002020-01-21T13:52:06.918-08:00Double the pleasure, double the fun! <p>Double Penetration can involve a myriad of configurations! Double penetration isn’t just designated for penis to vagina and penis to anus combinations. DP’s can also be double vaginal or double anal, and can involve one, two, or three people!</p>
<p>Solo DP’s</p>
<p>Thanks to the creative geniuses behind pleasure products, DP’s are accessible to solo players as well! You can use double-headed dildos, dual shafted vibrators, or two separate toys to penetrate your orifices. Some even have suction cup bases to make it easier to ride them cowgirl or back it up in the shower.</p>
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<p>Partner DVP’s and DAP’s</p>
<p>Double vaginal and double anal penetration can be done solo, or with a partner, or two! While two penises attached to two bodies is a little more challenging, it can be extremely pleasurable for everyone involved. You definitely want to have lube on hand (latex friendly lube if you’re using condoms for safety), and some stamina. You can have one penis wearing partner laying on a bed, or sitting in a chair, straddle the receiver on top of them facing forward or away, with the second penis entering once the first is inserted. Both penises will be stimulated by the sliding against each other, and everyone will notice the increased tightness of the orifice. The givers will feel more compression and sensation of the other, and the receiver will feel more fullness and stretching of the opening. A suspension system is also a great way to make positioning easier for this type of play.</p>
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<p>If only one additional partner is included, they can wear a dual penetration ring to add the extra insertion to the mix, or use a separate dildo or vibrator manually.</p>
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<p>For those who are new to double vaginal or anal penetration, couples toys like the Lelo Tiani are a great starter toy. The inserted piece is slim and vibrates, increasing sensations for both parties while adding the extra girth.</p>
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<p>Regardless of the type of double penetration, lube is an absolute must. The opening of the vaginal and anal canals are thin skinned and can tear easily. Using digital play and massaging the orifice is also helpful to relax and stretch the muscle. </p>
<p>Any type of new play enhances intimacy with your partner, so take things slow, explore the sensations, and always give a new experience at least two tries before you decide whether or not you like it.</p> Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-2472544740263308072019-01-18T18:15:00.000-08:002019-01-18T18:15:35.080-08:00Change the way you date... advice for 2019<p>While technology has clearly changed the way we date, there are also many other social changes in place that have affected how we view dating, mating, and commitment.</p>
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<p>We’ve seen the staggering percentages of marriages that end in divorce and our approach to long term commitments is evolving. We aren’t just looking for “the one.” We want autonomy, freedom, and happiness. We want to love someone who also loves us unconditionally. We want more than someone to take care of us, because the reality is, we can take care of ourselves. We don’t want a commitment, we want partnerships. Our love and affection isn’t for barter, it’s a gift. A gift to the person who sees us and loves us as we are.</p>
<p><b>Social media and dating apps provide endless possibilities for sex, friendship, and romance.</b> For some, this opportunity is daunting. Swiping right gives us boosts of dopamine and juicy hormones confusing our heart by what feels good to the brain and body. But by feeding this never ending hunger for oxytocin and pleasure, we lose sight of what we really crave…. connection. Not only is one of you continually searching for the next fix, you both are, as are the other people in your list of matches. The potential for authentic connection doesn’t stand a chance. You’ve also got a job and a life to attend to while you’re managing all these possibilities.</p>
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<p>But for others, these apps produce a faster result for fulfilling a need. <b>For those who know themselves, and can separate love from infatuation, and physical desire from mediocre sex, technology is merely an outsourcing tool.</b> They navigate these platforms with ease and can see beyond the noise of “likes,” “matches,” and “pokes.” They aren’t falling prey to the drama of “ghosting,” and “gas-lighting” because they know exactly what they want from these encounters. They aren’t giving anything away in exchange for false adoration and attention, they simply are enjoying it. </p>
<p>So how do you blend both sides of the modern dating spectrum? Honor yourself, and have integrity. Sure, easier than it sounds. But without those key traits, it doesn’t matter if you’re finding people on Tinder, or doing it the old fashioned way and being introduced to friends of friends… dating will remain unsuccessful and exhausting, and potentially painful.</p>
<p>Know yourself and understand your own needs first. What do you actually want out of a relationship? Long term potential? A fun hook-up? Regardless of what you determine is your motivation, act with honesty toward the person on the other side of the screen or restaurant table. Do them a solid by responding to text messages, even if you have to say, "you’re not interested.” Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, if you can’t have casual sex, don’t. If you don’t want to spend loads of money on expensive dates without the date including sex, don’t.</p>
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<p><b>You’re not an asshole for feeling that way, you’re an asshole for not saying anything at all, and then ghosting.</b> By being true to ourselves first, and inviting someone to spend time with us, we lead the way to authentic connections. Take a risk. Be straightforward about what you want. In the end, we all know there isn’t the “one that got away” anymore…. we can always find them on Facebook.</p>
Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-27704738048866900032018-12-17T04:40:00.000-08:002018-12-17T04:40:35.436-08:00Intimacy Choreography for Films and Television!<p>I am thrilled to announce that I am broadening my movement coaching and intimacy advice to enhance the working environments on film and television sets. After reading about HBO's use of an Intimacy Choreographer, I knew it was something that aligned my passions for Sex and Consent Education, as well as movement coaching and performance choreography.</p>
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<p>As a former actor who was hired for striptease, simulated sex scenes, stage fighting, and nude work, I often needed to navigate potentially uncomfortable scenes with co-stars, directors and crew. Through years of movement coaching, sex and consent-based education, partner yoga, and erotic dancing, I have acquired a specialized skill set. I not only have a passion for all aspects of intimacy choreography, but also an ability to observe and break down movements. </p>
<p>To learn more about my methods for creating choreography, working with actors, and availability and rates, email <a href="mailto:AskMiyoko@gmail.com">AskMiyoko@gmail.com</a> </p>
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Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-66399037730920458032018-05-01T11:56:00.000-07:002018-05-01T12:13:27.504-07:00Yellow Fever eats raises consciousness about stereotypes, and makes a tasty bowl of rice. I'd say, "SUCCESS!"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-4iJFh2M0wpA/WuiztGgUItI/AAAAAAAABJY/BWCeQALZdMQF-HvgfEF9Yvsvfv_d3P5jgCLcBGAs/s1600/IMG_0671.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-4iJFh2M0wpA/WuiztGgUItI/AAAAAAAABJY/BWCeQALZdMQF-HvgfEF9Yvsvfv_d3P5jgCLcBGAs/s400/IMG_0671.jpg" width="287" height="400" data-original-width="1125" data-original-height="1568" /></a></div>
<p>The small chain of Asian rice and noodle dishes has made it the <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/30/us/yellow-fever-restaurant.html">New York Times</a>, but not for their delicious eats. Yellow Fever is under attack by "critics" who call their name irresponsible. According to the New York Times, these critics say, "they are making little effort to challenge ideas of how Asian women are viewed sexually.</p>
<p><b>Ummm, seems like they are indeed challenging these ideas, as the debate has officially begun.</b> Let's also acknowledge that I don't expect the restaurant who serves my food to challenge my thoughts on social change. I also do want my food experience to be as satisfying as sex, if I can. <b>I want it to tempt me visually, cause my body to go into a state of pleasure reception, and complete the food orgasm by actually tasting delicious when I put it into my mouth and swallow.</b> Yes, I have had food give me that total experience, Yellow Fever isn't one of them unfortunately. Their food is tasty and delicious; however, but as a small walk up restaurant, they deliver on the promise of fresh, flavorful foods, that are quick and cheap.</p>
<p>As an Asian-American woman, I am certainly not offended by the name, even though I laughed when I saw the title. I expected to see scantily clad Asian women holding bowls of rice when I clicked on the <a href="http://www.instagram.com/yellowfevereats">Instagram account</a>, but was equally thrilled when I saw a family friendly feed of images that expressed their small business vibe of serving great food in a casual atmosphere.</p>
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<p>So, is the name offensive? Even my "white" husband didn't understand the derogatory reference, and he's married to an Asian-American woman. Does asking Yellow Fever to change their name, thereby avoiding the term, change the social consciousness? And... where do we stop?</p>
<p>Should Puma have to change their shoe brand because it also shares the word with a derogatory reference to women? Should all schools and Universities with mascots of Cougars be asked to switch to something less offensive? At some point, we have to understand that the responsibility of our words belong to us, and how we interpret them. Words are fueled with intention, and are not bad because of the words themselves, but how we use them.</p>
<p>Thank you Yellow Fever for serving up not only a social debate, but also food we can love a long time.</p>
Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-28300835245720441672017-07-11T17:53:00.000-07:002017-07-11T17:53:11.541-07:00What every woman should know about SEX!<p>While I was thrilled to contribute to this Article on <a href="http://bit.ly/sextips4women">Bustle.com,</a> I was sad that they only shared bullet points. Here's the extended version of my input in case you needed a little more explanation. After all, Educated sex, is better sex.</p>
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<p><b>Can I have sex while wearing a tampon?</b></p>
<p>Yes! While having sex during your period may not be your preferred time of the month, there are options. If your partner isn't comfortable with the presence of blood or you are worried about making a mess, you can leave a tampon or natural sea sponge inserted to absorb excess fluid. Natural sea sponges are available at most drug stores and are easy to rinse and reuse. The tampon or sponge will stay in the vaginal canal as the cervix is designed to keep anything from entering the uterus. It may get lodged deep inside the vaginal canal however, and will need to be removed by inserting a finger and hooking onto the tampon or sponge while bearing down. He will most likely be able to feel the tampon or sponge but if fluid reduction is the goal, this is a viable option. Sex in the shower is always a fun alternative.</p>
<p>**If it's not that time of the month, inserting toys such as Ben Wa balls are a stimulating additional to intecourse for both partners. He will have the benefit of an added stroking sensation and they will both enjoy the feeling of tightness and added stimulation. I recommend using a set that has a retrieval cord for easy removal.</p>
<p><b>Not all sex involves penetration. </b></p>
<p>"Sex" is a catchall phrase that includes all types of play and stimulation. But when we say, "We had sex, " or "Do you want to have sex?" we generally assume that means penis to vaginal penetration. Sex requires conversation. Too often we "fall into bed" or get "caught up by passion," taking the responsibility of sex out of the equation. "Alcohol made me do it," is a common statement. But what pleasure and intimacy do we truly achieve through accidental encounters? As women we need to be aware of our feelings and desires and ask for what we want. Perhaps you just want to have a passionate make out session with someone. Maybe you want an orgasm but don't want to be penetrated. These are conversations that we feel we aren't allowed to have, we're embarrassed to talk about sex... even if we do it, we can't talk about it. The reality is, both partners will find more pleasure if you do. For women, voicing our desires is empowering, being empowered gives us confidence, and confidence is sexy.</p>
<p><b>Blue balls are not your problem. </b></p>
Many women are conditioned to believe that if we tease or flirt with a man to the point of him getting an erection, that we are somehow responsible for helping him relieve it. Erections can come from all sorts of stimulation, both sexual and non-sexual. You are not responsible for getting your partner off. Period. Should you decide to engage in sexual acts that lead to orgasm for your partner, it is mutually consensual decision. You might decide to have a mutual masturbation session, oral sex, or penetrative sex, all of which are options and should be on the menu in any order and with the option to opt out of any or all.
<p>Be specific about your needs and desires ahead of time, and if things get steamier than you'd planned and you're not ready or willing to proceed, as him for masturbate for you. Saying something sexy like, "I'd love to watch you stroke yourself off for me." Is a huge turn on that allows him to finish and you to retain your boundaries without losing any sex appeal. Plus you'll learn how he likes to play with himself and what turns him on. Then you can regroup and decide if you want to pursue a sexual encounter when hormones aren't in overdrive.</p>
<p><b>Not all penises are created equal.</b> </p>
<p>While men are exposed to all shapes and sizes of penises in the locker room, women have a limited expectation of what an average penis should be. Some are large, some are small, some are thin, some are fat. Some curve down, some curve to one side, some have big mushroom heads, others are pointy. Some have foreskin, others don't. We are surprised by what we find when his pants are dropped and while we don't want to judge, we might not be the best at concealing our initial reactions. What's important to note is that they all work the same. They feel good when they are touched, licked, sucked and stroked, and can feel equally as good inside of us if the man its attached to is a present and considerate lover. Don't be too attached to what a perfect penis looks like. Be open to exploring all the beautiful differences and see what you like best about them. And should you be stared down by a penis you don't think you can love, know that there are alternative options. A man who is less endowed can use a hollowed strap on to increase size for his lover. A man with more to love can use a masturbator sleeve at the base to create a stopper to ease the depth of penetration. Ultimately a mans penis shouldn't define him, or decide his fate. Be as gentle with his emotions as you'd want him to be with yours. You may be pleasantly surprised to find that you'll get the most pleasure with a body you didn't expect.</p> Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-337479055255151562015-09-10T11:40:00.002-07:002015-09-10T11:41:51.783-07:00"My husband and I want to start playing with anal toys, but what kind should we get?!" <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3bzGb9Cfn8k/VfHL1REOHkI/AAAAAAAABAo/zltJV-WFB54/s1600/11029650_10206119107110154_3746056350708027814_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3bzGb9Cfn8k/VfHL1REOHkI/AAAAAAAABAo/zltJV-WFB54/s320/11029650_10206119107110154_3746056350708027814_n.jpg" /></a></div>
<p>I recently got a message from a client who wanted to start exploring anal play, but didn't know what she would like. Here's some suggestions of what's available and what products might be the right fit for your tush!</p>
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<p>If you are new to anal play, one of the best types of toys you can try is an anal plug. It is available in a range of sizes, materials and shapes. If your goal is to insert something into the anus for the first time and experience the sensation of having something in your bum, then you may want to opt for something smaller and graduate to a larger plug once you know you like the feeling, or your goals change.</p>
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<p>I really like the glass plug from Pipedreams Icicles collection. It’s only about 2 inches long and will slide in easily with a little lubrication. This plug could easily be worn during foreplay and intercourse and will add an extra sensation of fullness as well as excitement for you and your lover. Just the thought of knowing that something is in your tush is an erotic suggestion to fuel hot and sexy playdates.</p>
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<p>The icicles 46 is shaped for his pleasure. The slight bulbous tip is curved to stimulate the prostate gland and provide him with intense sensations and pressure. The smooth glass glides in easily with a little lubrication, and you can rotate the shaft to find his favorite spot. His prostate is located inside the anus and up toward his penis. He can lie on his back while you stroke his penis and rub his testicles. Or you can ride him reverse cowgirl and play with his prostate while you take care of your own pleasure.</p>
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<p>If your desire is to create an anal journey of pleasure and exploration, anal beads are a perfect addition to your bedroom toybox. Beads are not a simple insert and leave in type of toy. Your lover will delicately communicate and insert each bead as your body accepts them. Then you can either leave them in during intercourse, and slide them out as you climax, or your lover can insert and withdraw randomly while they also play with your clitoris or add finger or penis penetration into the receiver’s vagina, or if the receiver is male, orally pleasure and manually stroke the shaft of the penis. The sensation of delicious surprise as each bead slides in or out is an intense and pleasurable experience in an intimate area of your body.</p>
<p>Want to penetrate your partners booty, but don’t have a penis? No problem! You can strap on a dildo and experience the dominance and dynamic of giving someone else pleasure. Even though you don’t “feel” the actual sensation that they would, the visual of seeing yourself disappear inside your lover, and hearing the sounds of them moaning is a highly erotic way to experience of pleasure of giving. Have your lover “accept” you and take you in, while your hands are free to touch, massage, spank, or squeeze your lovers body. You can move slow, and lightly caress and squeeze them, kissing them deeply while they face you. Or try having them bent over on all fours, and enjoy the assertive touch of spanking them while you penetrate them deep and hard. Make sure you communicate the types of touch, play, and penetration they like, so you both can enjoy consensual and pleasurable intercourse.</p>
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<p>Or maybe you like the idea of penetrating, but don’t want to actually strap one on? There are several probes and vibrators designed to be inserted into the anus. I recommend hard plastic, glass, wood, metal, and silicone materials for safe and comfortable anal play. The size and shape of the probe or vibrator depends on the person receiving it. Ask them what appeals to them. Show them a few different styles and ask what they would prefer. Will this be used to prepare their anus for penile penetration later? If so, they might want a few different types of toys to slowly bring their muscles to a relaxed and stretched state before you penetrate them with your own man parts. Anal plugs tend to taper to a thinner girth at the base. While this is great for the feeling of fullness during play, it may not stretch the actual sphincter enough to accommodate your penis when the time comes. Adding a second toy that maintains it’s girth at the base might allow your lover’s muscles to stretch more to accept your average-to-large member.</p>
<p>And let’s not forget the lube! The anal canal does not self-lubricate for penetration. Always include a lubricant that provides some slip and slide for the receivers comfort and pleasure. I recently had the opportunity to try <a href="http://www.uberlube.com">Uberlube….</a> and will be keeping it on my nightstand from now on. I am a fan of silicone lubes in general for anal play as they stay slick longer, don’t tend to get sticky, and provide enough lubrication for penetration to feel sexy. Uberlube kept it’s viscosity during play, and then was easily washed off, or just rubbed in afterward. I didn’t have to keep applying lube, or adding spit to make it stay slick, which was a huge plus. I could just focus on the pleasure at hand… and fingers… </p>
<p>A few tips from <a href="http://www.kennethplay.com">Kenneth Play</a> and <a href="http://www.charlieglickman.com">Charlie Glickman</a> were to also have towels, wipes for easy clean up, and latex or polyurethane gloves and condoms handy. Anal play does lend itself to bacterial exposure so take steps to keep the playtime clean and safe. Wearing gloves on hands and putting condoms on toys or penises keeps playtime continuous. You won’t have to jump up and wash off when you’re ready to move onto other things! And most importantly, COMMUNICATE!! Anal play can be a scary or uncomfortable prospect, but can also create intense pleasure and intimacy in your relationships. So discuss what each of your fantasies and desires are, as well as boundaries as you explore, and you’ll discover new erotic sensations together.</p>
<p>If you need more tips on types of anal play and techniques for how to please your lover during anal play, listen to the entire episodes of my <a href="http://bit.ly/Miyoko_Play">Anal August shows on Play With Me on Playboy Radio!</a> </p>
Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-76877376752634393252015-06-03T09:47:00.000-07:002015-06-03T20:45:14.211-07:00Spring Clean your Toy Box! Are your sex toys safe? <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-DITvGTSr5Zk/VW9LVoRtEbI/AAAAAAAAA_8/OaurXxrUTRc/s1600/toys.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-DITvGTSr5Zk/VW9LVoRtEbI/AAAAAAAAA_8/OaurXxrUTRc/s400/toys.jpg" /></a></div>
<p>I did an article back in 2009 entitled "What's in your Toy?" Six years later, we have even more options, creating even more questions about whether or not your battery operated boyfriend is not just good to you, but good for you. So I've updated the list of sex toys materials to include more information about how to choose your toy, as well as the sexy types of things you can put on, and in your body. <b>From hard plastic to polished wood, I'll give you the reasons you might want to toss your old standby, or pick up something new this season.</b></p>
<p><b>Most of the original vibrators were made from hard plastic.</b> Hard plastic vibes have been on the scene for a long time, are lubricant friendly, transfer vibrations well, are non-porous and can be cleaned and sanitized easily. What does this mean for you? It can be used with either water-based, or silicone lubes, will give you enough vibration to get you off, and are made from materials that are safe, i.e.: does not contain the controversial phthalates we have heard so much about.</p>
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<p><b>Care and Feeding of your Hard Plastic Toys:</b> Hard plastic can be cleaned with soap and water, toy cleaner, and sanitized with a solution of rubbing alcohol and water. Because they are non-porous, they can be stored virtually anywhere. But why not keep them clean and ready for your next moment of inspiration?! Be careful not to get the battery compartment wet! And always remove your batteries to prolong the life of the battery and avoid corrosion.</p>
Later, softer materials for toys were introduced. Jelly toys come from a porous rubber material with chemical phthalates added. <b> While their have been no conclusive studies on phthalates in sex toys, the use of these materials in our children's toys has been banned.</b> These toys generally have a strong smell when you open the package, and can feel sticky or tacky. Conscientious retailers are proud to no longer carry jelly toys. Eco-friendly and health conscious consumers are avoiding purchasing products that are toxic. But does that mean you need to toss your favorite BOB? Nope, you can use a condom on your jelly toy if you are concerned about exposure to phthalates.</p>
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<p><b>Care and Feeding of your Jelly Toys:</b> Only water-based lubricant is recommend for jelly toys. Clean your jelly toys with mild soap and water, or toy cleaner, and store in a cool, dry place, rather than an airtight container. Be careful not to get the battery compartment wet! And always remove your batteries to prolong the life of the battery and avoid corrosion.</p>
<p>Jelly toys will leach onto other things, so make sure you store them wrapper in a paper towel, or toy bag that is breathable so your jelly toys don't melt and breakdown.</p>
<p><b>Silicone was introduced to sex toys in the 1980's, and is widely used and popular today.</b> While it is one of the most popular materials for toys, not all silicone is created equal. When choosing a silicone toy, stick to food or medical grade silicone for the safest in silicone toys. Medical grade silicone is hypoallergenic, hygienic, boilable, bleachable, and even dishwasher safe. Some resources suggest that silicone lubricants may not be used on silicone toys, but they can as long as the toy and the lubricant are both of a high quality. How can you tell? I recommend doing a patch test. Rub some on the base of the shaft of the toy, as far away from where you'll want to insert it, just in case. Apply a small amount and check back later for any changes to the surface area.</p>
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<p><b>Care and Feeding of your Silicone Toys:</b> Silicone toys, like hard plastic, can be cleaned with soap and water, toy cleaner, and sanitized with a solution of rubbing alcohol and water. Because they are non-porous, they can be stored virtually anywhere. Be careful not to get the battery compartment wet! And always remove your batteries to prolong the life of the battery and avoid corrosion.</p>
<p>Elastomer is a compound that does not contain phthalates. It starts out soft and has products added to make it harder (unlike PVC that has chemicals added to make it softer). There are no solvents or latex in Elastomer. But to look at it, how can one tell the difference? Look for toys labeled as <a href="http://www.timcorubber.com/rubber-materials/tpe.htm">TPE or TPR</a>. While the type of plastic is a healthier option, it is not a completely non-porous material.</p>
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<p><b>Care and Feeding of your Elastomer Toys:</b> Silicone toys, like hard plastic, can be cleaned with soap and water, toy cleaner, but cannot be disinfected. Be careful not to get the battery compartment wet! And always remove your batteries to prolong the life of the battery and avoid corrosion.</p>
<p><b>Latex and Rubber: Latex is made from rubber.</b> These toys wear out faster, and can be harmful to people with latex allergies. This material is very porous; therefore, toys made of latex should not be shared unless used with condoms. While mild soap and water, or toy cleaner can be used to clean latex toys, but using condoms makes it easy and fast! While many health and safety conscious retailers are no longer carrying these types of products, you don't have to give up your favorite toy. If you are concerned about the potential toxicity, using a condom can reduce the exposure. Safe sex works with toys as well as people.</p>
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<p><b>Care and Feeding of your Latex and Rubber Toys:</b> Latex and Rubber cannot be sanitized. Clean with soap and water or toy cleaner. Because they are porous, be sure to store in a breathable wrap or bag to keep it clean in between uses. Be careful not to get the battery compartment wet! And always remove your batteries to prolong the life of the battery and avoid corrosion.</p>
<p><b>Glass is gaining popularity, and is one of MY personal favorite materials for toys.</b> While some women consider this firm material scary, we have grown up with it. We use it in our kitchens on a daily basis, and know it's safety and durability. Glass is non-porous making it anti-bacterial. It also requires little lubrication, making it ideal for all kinds of intimate play. Even though it is difficult to break, be sure to inspect glass toys before each use.</p>
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<p><b>The care and feeding of your glass sex toys…</b> You can clean glass with soap and water, a solution of rubbing alcohol and water, sanitize with a solution of water and bleach, boil in water, or clean in the dishwasher! They are completely non-porous and will not harbor bacteria. You can store them virtually anywhere and some pieces are so beautiful, they beg to be displayed.</p>
Got Wood? Wood initially made me do a double-take. Then I investigated further. <a href="http://www.holisticwisdom.com/nobessence-seduction.htm">NobEssence™</a> hand-selects their woods, carves, and meticulously polishes all of their sculptures using the highest American standards of craftsmanship. Their silky-smooth, state-of-the-art, bio-compatible Lubrosity prevent problems such as splintering and splitting. This coating is a completely Phthalate free, odorless and colorless finish which forms an impermeable barrier to chemicals and bacteria. Lubrosity meet USP Class IV and VI Medical Standards. Sculptures attentively encapsulated in Lubrosity coatings are odorless, may be soaked in water, and remain in body-contact for hours at a time - no waxes to melt away, no salad bowl oils to leach out or maintain, and no toxic petroleum distillates. Sculptures are odorless, may be soaked in water, and can remain in body-contact for hours at a time... ummmm, if you wanted to leave it in and watch a movie...?
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<p><b>The care and feeding of your handcrafted wood toys…</b> You can clean wood with mild soap and water, a solution of rubbing alcohol and water. They are completely non-porous and will not harbor bacteria. You can store them virtually anywhere and like glass, some pieces are so beautiful, they look lovely left out for display.</p>
<p><b>Metal toys! Another one of my favorite materials for penetration.</b> Metal is cool to the touch, and heats up with body contact. It is HEAVY... and gives the receiver a feeling of presence. It is also non-porous, easy to clean, and won't harbor bacteria. <a href="http://www.njoytoys.com">Njoy products</a> are designed with solo or partner play in mind, and are perfect for G-spot and prostate exploration. Great for vaginal or anal penetration, or vaginal TO anal, but make sure you clean your toys when going from anal to vaginal play. My favorite design is the <a href="http://www.njoytoys.com/products/purewand.php">Pure Wand.</a> Ideal for giving pressure to the G-spot or prostate while comfortable stimulating the clitoris for her manually or orally. And a lovely way to provide anal or perineal stimulation for him while you're on top, or reaching around.</p>
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<p><b>The care and feeding of your metal toys…</b> You can clean metal with mild soap and water or a solution of rubbing alcohol and water. They are completely non-porous and will not harbor bacteria. You can store them virtually anywhere but most manufacturers provide beautiful boxes or cases to store them between uses.</p>
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<p>Pipedream products launched the Metalworx collection, which has made the purchase of metal toys more available to the general population.</p>
<p>The bottom line is: <b>whatever you use on or in your body, be sure to choose, clean and store them carefully. Your toys will give you many moments of pleasure, so play responsibly!</b>
<p><b>**How to store your new BOB?</b>Wrapper in a clean paper towel and tucked in a drawer is fine. You can also hide it in clean sock or <a href="http://www.sugarsak.com/products.html">toy bag.</a> Make sure they are not touching other toys and are not too warm. Taking the batteries out in between uses will prolong the life of the batteries and avoid corrosion.</p>
<p>To listen to the full show Ep. 21 on Play With Me On Playboy Radio, <a href="http://bit.ly/Miyoko_Play">click here</a></p>
Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-62091741988676966392015-05-14T10:40:00.000-07:002015-05-14T10:40:10.392-07:00A History of Striptease and Pole Dancing, and How to Pull off a Sexy Striptease for your Lover!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-WUkb4-DHEHg/VVTbZ1WPzxI/AAAAAAAAA88/LmrAYQ1r_q8/s1600/Minskys.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-WUkb4-DHEHg/VVTbZ1WPzxI/AAAAAAAAA88/LmrAYQ1r_q8/s400/Minskys.jpg" /></a></div>
<p><b>It's been a long road from the early traveling carnival and circus show Burlesque to modern day pole fitness, but one thing remains... the allure of the female form as she moves with grace and exudes sensuality.</b>
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<p>So obviously this is nothing new, but in our more current word association, we think of strip clubs and pole dancers. Pole dancing has been popularized for the past hundred years, back when the pole holding up the tent was used for circus shows. Those pole eventually were moved from tents to bars, and then combined with Burlesque. The earliest recorded pole dance was a performance by Belle Jangles at Mugwump Strip Club in Oregon in 1968. And I would venture to guess that venues like the Playboy Club, as well as the birth of men's magazines which made the female form more visually accessible had a hand in making strip bars and topless clubs a viable business. Several decades later we continue to generally associate modern striptease and pole dancing with topless and nude bars, but we now also see the gravity defying images of scantily clad female pole athletes who exude sex appeal with their strength and physical ability. We know that men enjoy the visual delight of a woman deliberately removing her clothes. But do you have to be a competition level acrobatic pole athlete to pull off a sexy striptease? Absolutely not!</p>
<p>In fact, you don't need a pole at all!!</p>
<p>There are really only a few things you need to know before you decide to "bust-a-move..."</p>
<p>1. <b>Don't take yourself too seriously.</b> Your partner obviously thinks you're sexy. There's something, and quite possibly a lot of things, that they love about you, your naked body, and how your bodies come together. Use your knowledge of your lover to create the perfect dance. Highlight their favorite areas. Maybe they love your breasts, your legs, your butt, your feet?! Tease them with those places on your body.</p>
<p>2. <b>Don't wear something that is difficult to take off.</b> Pants may "go on one leg at a time," but they can be a disaster to take off while you're trying to be sexy and dance... dresses and skirts are best so you can play with them bu pulling them up, or sliding them off.</p>
<p>3. <b>Don't be drunk.</b> Yeah, you might need some liquid courage to help fight those feelings of shyness or insecurity. But you <i>might</i> not filter those high school dance moves that haven't come out since 1990... A sloppy stripper scenario could be fun for some role playing, but if you really want to surprise them with a sexy striptease, let them really see you, awkward moves and all. They will love knowing that even though you're not a professional, you're taking them time to do this for them.</p>
<p><b>4. Do take the time to prepare.</b> Pick a song that you like to move to. Even though they won't remember what song was playing, you'll be having fun and them watching you have fun is part of what makes it sexy! Set the mood! Dim the lights, or put red bulbs in your lamps to create the desired effect. Shower, primp and prep your body for what comes after the dance.</p>
<p><b>5. Do learn some moves.</b> Let's face it, if striptease were easy, we'd all be doing it. There are signature moves that give you the look of the pro's. There are ways to move your body that accentuate your best assets. And conversely there are things we do with our bodies that simply, just don't work.... Learn from a professional. Take a class. Even an hour of instruction will give you tons of tips that you have in your pocket and ready to go at the drop of a hat! Invest in yourself.
<p><b>Striptease boosts your self-esteem, gets you in touch with your body, and all that juicy energy translates into your romantic life. It's a win win for everyone ;)</b></p>
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<p>To hear my interview with <a href="https://www.facebook.com/polarityfitness">Celeste Ayers</a>, owner of <a href="http://www.polarityfitness.com">Polarity Fitness</a>, listen to <a href="http://bit.ly/Miyoko_Play">Ep. 30 on Play With Me on Playboy Radio! </a></p>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fkQn1-khhr8/VVTdlERczvI/AAAAAAAAA9Q/2ns0IWIfnp0/s1600/Screen%2BShot%2B2015-05-14%2Bat%2B10.37.46%2BAM.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fkQn1-khhr8/VVTdlERczvI/AAAAAAAAA9Q/2ns0IWIfnp0/s400/Screen%2BShot%2B2015-05-14%2Bat%2B10.37.46%2BAM.png" /></a></div>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-81062341673428370982015-03-30T14:12:00.000-07:002015-03-30T14:17:23.016-07:00Is Porn good for you?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lqR781XRve0/VRm6UQdy2zI/AAAAAAAAA78/6uy-iAltSYM/s1600/10406631_10204841058839746_799251302669684219_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lqR781XRve0/VRm6UQdy2zI/AAAAAAAAA78/6uy-iAltSYM/s400/10406631_10204841058839746_799251302669684219_n.jpg" /></a></div><p>Apparently, I am potentially addicted to porn. Mind you, I don't think I've actually watched a real porn movie in over 5 years...if not more... But by answering a few simple questions in a quiz on <a href="http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/quiz-are-you-addicted-to-porn">Mensfitness.com</a>, I was labeled as, “bordering on being problematic.”</p>
<p>The mere fact that my healthy sex drive would cause me to answer yes to any of these questions shouldn't be a basis for determining whether or not I have a porn addiction. What it does say about our society in general, is that the overall consensus is, PORN IS BAD.</p>
<p>There is so much negative energy surrounding the word "Porn." People are incredibly offended by it, and many people won't admit to actually watching porn, when clearly the statistical data proves that we all do. Yep, men and women... both watch porn.</p>
<p>According to an article by <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/03/internet-porn-stats_n_3187682.html">The Huffington Post</a>, 70% of men watch porn (some other sites rate that percentage much higher) along with 30% of women. In fact, 30% of data that is transferred across the internet is PORN. An article from mandatory.com cites that “people are viewing porn, more than Facebook, Twitter, and Hulu combined…” and we know how much y’all like Facebook. Their claims are pretty staggering… “At any second of the day worldwide, nearly 30 million unique visitors are viewing porn.” And yet we still deny we watch it… hmmm. “In 2001, there were around 70,000 adult websites. Today, just 13 years later, they are more than 4.2 million pornographic websites in the U.S. alone. It does not take a math major to figure out that increase is tremendous. Either people are lying about watching porn or people are lying about watching porn.”</p>
<p><b>So, why are we so afraid to admit that we watch and even “like” porn?</b> We know that visual stimulation produces fantastic results. We know that men are more visually stimulated sexually. Many men say that they use porn as a way to kick-start the session, but usually finish thinking about a personal experience. Sex therapists have recommended porn with a vibrator as a great way to ensure she climaxes, as most women don’t achieve orgasm through straight up intercourse.</p>
<p>I posed the question on my social media, and interviewed people while attending Adultcon at the Los Angeles Convention Center. Here are a few sound bites from people who were more than happy to speak on the subject….</p>
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<p>While people at the porn convention were open and communicative, my social media accounts proved how much of a negative stigma is still attached to the word. Women commented in response to my question: “What do you think of when you view porn?” But most men stayed far away from the topic. Men who would normally “like” or comment wouldn’t touch it with a ten foot pole. They did however feel comfortable private messaging me or texting me their thoughts, but didn’t want to have their personal social media accounts show the “activity” that would confirm that they actually watch porn. One man messaged me by saying, <i>“my wife would be horrified if I posted this, but I watch porn and think, ‘I want to do that with my wife.’</i>” This sentiment is beautiful and heart-breaking. This man who, adores his wife, is inspired to find ways to give her pleasure and bring them together as a couple, is shamed by her lack of interest and most likely a negative outlook on sex with her own husband, as well as porn.</p>
<p><b>**Is porn bad? If this man didn’t have porn, where would he release the sexual energy that his wife won’t share with him? Have an affair perhaps…</b></p>
<p>If you made it all the way through the soundbites I posted above, you would’ve heard one woman’s opinion that watching porn is considered adultery to her and her husband. They feel that seeing images of other people creates feelings of lust and visual imagery that might be hard to suppress during their love-making. They want to be as “pure of heart” as they possibly can for each other. While she didn’t express an opposition to the existence of porn, she was strongly against porn in their relationship. Religion was the reason cited for their mutual decision to avoid porn, and I respect her choice to maintain her commitment to her faith and her relationship.</p>
<p><i>If religion is your reason for not supporting porn, this blog might not rub you the right way…. pun intended. How you should feel about porn, gay marriage, anal sex, BDSM lifestyles, and any other “un-natural” sex acts, may have already been decided. While I am lucky to have several religious friends who view sex as a healthy, adventurous, loving way to celebrate their relationships in all kinds of playful ways, I know there are more religious readers who are less open-minded about the topic. To those readers, I hope you continue reading….</i></P>
<p>It seems like porn is unavoidable these days. You can easily search a term that accidentally gives you pages of porn related materials and websites with an innocent and random word. But is all this access to porn, and the actual content itself good for us?</p>
<p>According to <a href="http://www.drjudithreisman.com/archives/2007/10/the_impotence_p.html">Dr. Judith Reisman</a>, PII or Pornographically Induced Impotence is a growing epidemic. She shares opinions of several doctors and professors who attest that porn can be extremely damaging to libido and emasculating, “castrating men of all ages and races.” They also admit that the percentage of men who suffer from PII is unknown…. She is also, if you didn’t know, one of the prominent anti-Kinsey Institute protestors, who feels that his work has sexually sabotaged our society. I wasn’t able to find links from her article to scientific data supporting these opinions, but they are compelling nonetheless. If you fear that porn might cause you to become impotent, you may also want to worry that masturbation will cause you to go blind. <b>Generally, limiting your exposure to these images will restore your body’s natural response to erotic stimulus.</b> These “cases” of PII ares extreme examples of over-exposure to porn and porn addiction. Most of you, dear readers, will not fall into this category.</p>
<p>Next let’s discuss dopamine… the pleasure reward we receive in the brain. Porn doesn’t just give you warm fuzzy feelings in the genitals. It gives us a dopamine rush, which is why some people can become addicted to porn. Just as we can become addicted to our social media, porn provides endless hours of distractions and new visual experiences to keep the dopamine flowing. Some therapists recommend taking a break from your porn (and/or your social media) occasionally to reset the baseline for your dopamine tolerance. There are several studies being done on the long term effects of these constant dopamine dings. So far I haven’t seen any conclusive studies on long term effects, but the social media and smart phone age is still relatively new. it could take decades for us to actually see any type of biological evolution in correlation to the increase in dopamine for the average human.</P>
<p><b>Is porn bad for relationships?</b> Couples who watch porn together say they experience a boost in their sex life. They like to “spice up” their intimate relations by adding visual stimulation, or use porn as an instructional video to try new things. Some woman express fears that their partners will be less attracted to them because they are masturbating to images of other women’s bodies. But they might be surprised to hear that men are more inclined to watch the female actresses facial expressions rather than her actual body. They are more turned on by the idea that this woman is enjoying her sexual encounter. It could be argued that social media is bad for relationships. In some of the same surveys that claim that “watching internet porn” ruined 58% of marriages, it also cites that 40% blame extra-marital relationships that began online. Does the internet or porn itself break up the marriage? Or do feelings of unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and lack of intimacy create the need for people to meet those needs in other places? Is McDonald’s responsible for making people fat? Or do we all have the capacity to make our own decisions about what we do with our bodies, and take responsibility for how our actions may affect our relationships? Yes, addiction is real… addiction to porn, alcohol, drugs, and a plethora of other things can negatively impact one’s life. They may withdraw from society, prioritize their addiction over family, work, and life itself. ADDICTION is bad, porn….?</p>
<p>There are surveys being done on how viewing porn effects our expectations about sexual partners, and whether or not it discourages interest and commitment to romantic relationships. Again, I haven’t found any links to actual scientific data. What they generally say is that people who watch porn are more likely to have intercourse at an earlier age, have multiple sex partners, be open to the idea of casual sex, have less interest in romantic partnering, and may experience dissatisfaction in long term monogamous relationships. In all my recreational research on sex, and how people have sex, I would say that all of those things apply to a person who isn’t overly exposed to pornography as well. People want sex, they want to feel desired, they want to be naked and copulate with other sexually attractive mates, they want love, they crave affection and attention, and they even want to get married and have kids. I assure you, the business of marriage is in full force. <a href="http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/06/17/marriage-trends-demographics/2424641/">USA Today</a> predicts that there will be 2.208 million weddings in 2015.</p>
<p><b>So then, is watching other people have sex bad for you?</b> I believe that it's healthy. In other cultures listening to someone have sex, or possibly even seeing others have sex is a natural part of everyday life. Families live in small dwellings. Parents share rooms and sometimes even beds with their offspring. People live in small villages and communities where the hiding of their sex acts isn’t necessary or even plausible to be hidden. Does this make them sexual deviants? I think having a healthy attitude toward sex and sexuality is of tremendous importance. Whether you choose or even promote celibacy, we shouldn't be opposed to the idea of sexual awareness, open communication about sex, and overall sex positivity.</p>
<p><b>Embracing sex, in all forms, is the best form of sex education.</b> Porn shows people having sex. It doesn’t show people necessarily being intimate, but it also doesn’t hide or romanticize the reality of the act of sex. It doesn’t make excuses for itself, it doesn’t limit the way people orgasm, it represents all types of sexual activity, and all types of sexual stimulus. Porn brings people together by validating desires. Desires that could be considered deviant, or abnormal. By allowing people to experience those desires in a way that is not harming other people, purely experienced by choice (one must click to view, and can opt-out by a simple click at any time), and produced legally with consensual adults (we are not talking about illegal porn in this post), there is fulfillment. Porn can also inspire creativity and teach people how to make love better. Couples can watch porn together and ask each other to do things they see portrayed in the videos. They may even be exposed to things they don't realize they like. Everything from the way a porn actor is kissed, touched, licked, and yes, fucked, can be a new experience for the viewer to discover pleasure within their own relationships. The point and the benefit is that they are communicating their sexual needs and desires.</p>
<p><b>Is porn good for you?</b> You'll have to decide that on your own or together, but I say that if you aren't bordering addiction and withdrawing from society, a spoonful of porn a day might just keep the divorce away.</p>
To listen to the full episode, "Is PORN good for you?" On Playboy Radio, click here http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShowMiyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-31587971077172396672015-02-17T11:13:00.002-08:002015-02-17T11:36:45.692-08:0050 Shades Movie Review: from a married, sexually adventurous, mom of a teenage daughter.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xf4kExkFriA/VOONF-d16HI/AAAAAAAAA6I/hbDTGlN9BMs/s1600/10929244_776628455707918_6513573562574538498_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xf4kExkFriA/VOONF-d16HI/AAAAAAAAA6I/hbDTGlN9BMs/s400/10929244_776628455707918_6513573562574538498_o.jpg" /></a></div>
<p>There has been a lot of controversy online about the Fifty Shades of Grey movie. People who feel passionately that it is setting a bad example for our young girls about what a relationship should look like, and what normal sex should be.</p>
<p>I went into the theatre with an open mind to watch the scenes and listen to the dialogue between Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele to see if I felt that it was the abusive, controlling, torturous, sexist relationship that was being described in social media debates.</p>
<b><p><i>I will preface my review of the film by saying, I am a woman who enjoys sex and all aspects of sex play. While I’ve dabbled in the world of BDSM, I have not experienced a DOM-SUB relationship personally. I have never been sexually abused. I have read all the books. I have now seen the film. I am a mother to a teenage daughter. The opinions to come, if at all biased, are reflective of who I am. Take them as you will.</p></i>
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<b><p>Here’s what I never saw:</p></b>
<p>1. Christian Grey abusing, torturing, or otherwise harming Anastasia Steele.</p>
<p>2. Anything other than consensual sex and intimacy between two adults.</p>
<p>3. A controlling relationship. While Christian Grey “requests” total control in their relationship, Ana never actually gives it.</p>
<b><p>What I did see:</p></b>
<p>1. Highly erotic scenes of fantasy play (ie: restraints, light whippings and floggings) and lots of nudity.</p>
<p>2. A woman being pleasured sexually by a man who adored her.</p>
<p>3. A relationship in conflict. Two people trying to negotiate the balancing act of their needs and boundaries.</p>
<b><p>For those who are saying that it portrays women in a submissive and anti-feminist light:</p></b>
<p>While Ana’s character is asked to be his “submissive,” She maintains her life outside of the designated play hours. She is asked to “agree” to make herself available to him in whatever way he sexually desires in exchange for her pleasure, and the ability to be in a relationship with him. She is never asked to cook, clean, or otherwise play a traditionally female role in his life. As part of the contract she is required to be exclusive to him sexually, and to be on the pill. She is not expected to give up her free will, but rather, to know that there will be consequences to her actions should she decide to "break the rules."</p>
<p>In a “normal” relationship, women are <i>generally</i> expected to cook and clean, raise children, and work, oh, and have sex exclusively with him, for his pleasure.</p>
<b><p>For those who say that she is abused, tortured, isolated and humiliated:</p></b>
<p>Let’s take these one at a time…</p>
<p>From <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abuse">Wikipedia</a>, the definition of abuse</p>
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<p>Ana is “spanked” for punishment after Christian warns her “If you roll your eyes at me again, I will take you over my knee.” She of course, rolls her eyes later in the scene, and he lays her over his lap, pulls up her dress and asks her if she understands why he is doing this. After his initial spank, he asks her if she likes it, and then again, if she would like more. Doesn’t sound like “abuse” to me.</p>
<p>Ana is later brought into the Red Room (aka, his play room), where he introduces her to the experience of being teased and whipped with a riding crop while being restrained and blindfolded. Again, he asks her “Does it hurt.” He straps her spread eagle to his four poster bed with ropes and blindfolds her, then continues with some sensory play with feathers and a flogger. At no point in the film does it depict her in any pain until she asks him. “Show me” what the worst punishment would be.</p>
<p>This is the only scene people will or could have an issue with in my opinion. She is whipped on the ass with a leather belt 6 times. He explains exactly what will happen. He tells her she will count the whippings with him. She is NOT restrained or blindfolded. She is shown to appear to be in pain and is crying. However, where the tears are actually being derived from, is left to the viewer.</p>
<p>In the scene leading up to this “punishment,” she is arguing with him. Why he is like this? Why does he have a need to dole out punishments for her at all? And then of course, how severe would the worst punishment be? It is implied that he is an emotionally broken man, that he was abused as a child, and so needs to be abusive in a controlled environment to appease his demons. Her tears could be from the pain of the actual belt lashings, or they could be from her sadness that this man whom she is falling in love with was abused as a child. She could be crying because she is scared of what loving a man like him leaves her vulnerable to. Or she should could be crying because she herself feels unloved by her mother who fails to show up for her college graduation.</p>
<p><b>Tortured:</b> Um, let’s see… she was given intense pleasure repeatedly… I’ll take some of that torture.</p>
<p><b>Isolated:</b> Christina Grey introduces her to his family, meets Ana’s mother, is publicly photographed with her, spends time at her apartment as well as his, and refers to her as his girlfriend when the need to introduce her arises. Doesn’t sound very isolated to me.</p>
<p><b>Humiliated:</b> He holds her hair back while she pukes, never once scolding her for making her own choices, but simply acknowledges that it wasn’t smart. He buys her new clothes to wear because she has vomited all over hers. Buys her a new computer because hers is broken. Takes her for a ride in his helicopter, and an adrenaline fueled ride in a glider. Makes sure she is well nourished. Tells her to never be ashamed of her body, that she has a beautiful body. Bathes her. Spends the night in bed sleeping with her, even though he said he doesn’t “do that.”</p>
<p>I could not find a single instance in the film where Ana is ever made to feel humiliated. It could be argued that she is scolded for not letting him know that she was traveling to see her mother out-of-state, and that he didn’t want her drinking her third Cosmo while she was out with her mom. But at that point in the film, they had already made agreements, expectations were in place, and again, “humiliated?” Embarrassed, perhaps.</p>
<b><p>For those who ask, “What are we teaching our daughters?”</p></b>
<p>I will say this. Movies suck as examples of what actual loving relationships look like. Our daughters are exposed to many lofty ideals of what passion, love, romance, and long-term relationships can be. Hollywood generally shows the fantasy fairy-tale as something to strive for… which can lead to serious disappointment. It was refreshing to see a man who knew himself, communicated his needs with authentic clarity, and gave her the ability to opt out. He never offered romance, but he was willing to give her everything else if she agreed. He would fuck her hard, respect, nuture, and care for her. Not a bad proposition if you ask me. I would be thrilled if my daughter encountered a gentleman like this man when she is an adult. A man who was intelligent, present, compassionate, attentive, respectful, and oh yes, wanted nothing more than to spend hours playing with her body and giving her pleasure.</p>
<b><p>For those who say that this contract was controlling and sexist…</p></b>
What is Marriage? A legal and binding contract between two people “til death do they part.” And what details are discussed and outlined in this contract? Not much. I would much rather negotiate the terms of my relationship, my sexual pleasure, my physical and emotional health and well-being, than leave it chance based on whimsical lifelong decisions due to “feelings” of love and passion. You can call it cynical, or un-romantic, but you can’t deny the power of honest and open communication.</p>
<p>I’m sure people of the BDSM community will have a field day with this film. It’s very vanilla. It’s ONE fictional account of a POSSIBLE relationship between a Dominant and a Submissive. It barely grazes the surface of what types of sensations could be experienced between two consensual adults with creative minds and willing bodies. I do feel like it may introduce people who may have never considered fantasy play to a few fun scenarios in the bedroom. I hope it will create conversations between couples who want to spice things up, and that men and women will explore what they actually need and desire in their relationships.</p>
<p>Footnotes:</p>
<p>What I loved... the actors had real, beautiful bodies, and seemed to play together well on screen. I loved that they both had full bush, which was shown briefly and equally for both actors.</p>
<p>What I hated... that again a girl is conflicted by the potential of "love," that she is incapable of having sex without love. And that Christian Grey has to be a billionaire, perpetuating the ideal that men are there to provide. Oh and... there wasn't enough sex.</p>
<p>But then again, it is just a movie...</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-51784005262592741402014-12-23T13:14:00.000-08:002014-12-23T13:17:15.183-08:00Miyoko's Last Minute Holiday Gift Guide!- Start the new year off with a BANG!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Gm6vVaQnhKQ/VJnVFUPqF-I/AAAAAAAAA4Y/XiMNUGkHhmg/s1600/10393852_10204235550862425_6688497494025566589_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Gm6vVaQnhKQ/VJnVFUPqF-I/AAAAAAAAA4Y/XiMNUGkHhmg/s400/10393852_10204235550862425_6688497494025566589_n.jpg" /></a></div><p>Gift giving can be precarious… what do you get to the person you lay down next to every night, and wake up to every morning. What gift says, “I love you.” But also, “I WANT YOU!!!” What gift would she actually appreciate and want to use with you.</p>
<p>Definitely don't expect to send that message with something practical like a toaster, or a scarf. Women can be a challenge to buy for, but ultimately, we want more intimacy. We crave connection, want to feel desired, and to experience mind-blowing sex. So what can you give to the object of your affection that won't make her feel objectified?And what can you do for her this holiday that won't empty out your wallet?!</p>
<p>First, my top pics...</p>
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<p>1. <b><a href="http://tabooessentials.com/domesticgoddess/Store_ProductList.asp?DeptId=72">Liberator bedroom shapes</a></b>-I love the functionality of these positionary aids. The positions and possibilities are endless, but the support of the foam pillow allows you to hit the right spots, while sustaining the angle until she gets her beloved "O." Oral sex, missionary, doggie style... all made better by one simple shape.</p>
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<p>2. <a href="http://www.lovecrave.com/vibrators/vesper/features"><b>Vesper by Crave</b></a>-this whisper quiet, exquisite piece of art won't break the bank, but will show your goddess how much you love her sexy side. Rechargeable via USB cable, this fine piece of "O" inducing ass provides clitoral stimulation or sensual vibrating insertion anytime throughout the day. Give her the gift of pleasure at her fingertips, and trust me, she'll return the favor.</p>
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<p>3. <b><a href="http://bubblelove.com">Bubble Love</a></b>-This truly and completely submergeable toy provides a bubble blast to your clitoris. For the women who like water play, this device can be used in the tub, and provides an added bonus to your relaxing bath. Forget Calgon..Bubble Love take me away. Dildo attachment is also available for those who like a little </p>
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<p>4. <b>Embrace Body wand by Cal Exotics</b>-This rechargeable cordless vibrating handheld massager is powerful enough to work out the kinks in your neck, but also for ensuring an orgasm every time!! Handheld plug-in massagers are discreet enough to leave out on the bedside table, and powerful enough to potentially bring him to hand free climax.... um, yeah... highly recommended.</p>
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<p>5. <a href="http://tabooessentials.com/domesticgoddess/Store_ProductDetail.asp?DeptID=70&ItemID=5156"><b>Intro to S&M Kit by Sex & Mischief</b></a>-a great way to introduce light bondage into your bedroom play! Fur-lined handoffs make restraining sexy, while the blindfold allows for sensory deprivation experience, and the black leather whip provides a light tickle as it dances over your lover's flesh, or a sting as it whips their body in various places. You decide the level of play, and of course, always have a safe word.</p>
<b><p>Next, the amazing products I had the pleasure to review for this Holiday Season...</p></b>
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<p>1. <a href="http://www.ovo.de"><b>Ovo Lifestyle Toys</b></a>-a brand I was familiar with, but had no tactile knowledge of. This gorgeous collection of USB charged and battery operated products are made of 100% body safe materials. High grade medical silicone cover most of these sleek and sensual toys. Just touching the toys themselves inspired my vagina. They have a very sexy design that spark sexual energy, and can be used to stimulate multiple areas of the body. If she's really into oral sex, gift her the S1... and watch her orgasm from powerful flickering tongue-like sensations. Wanna play together? Grab an A1 and experience the luxury together.</p>
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<p>2. Cal Exotics Entice vibes and light bondage accessories-these ultra sexy products beg to be played with...toys and tools to bring your Fifty Shades inspired fantasy to reality. The silky brocade bar gag is enough to get the point across without making breathing difficult, and making them look oh so seductively restrained. Feathered nipplets are adjustable to accommodate different sized nipples, and can be used as decorative jewelry or to create an actual pinch.
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<p>3. Screaming O-inexpensive but quality toys that make sex fun and pleasurable! I love this brand!! All of their couples rings and vibrators come with batteries, so you're all set to play! Small enough to fit into a stocking, or grab a few and box them up for a night of festive fun! The Vibro-man is a trio of vibrations. The kit includes a cock ring, a finger vibe, and a tongue vibe, so that everywhere you touch, with any part of your body, sends pleasurable vibes.
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<p>4. Dreamgirl International-Sexy Holiday lingerie and themed attire make playing Ms. Santa even more hot. Their one size fits most pieces (Plus line also available) are well made and include most of the accessories you'll need to pull the look off!</p>
<b><p>What to give that “special friend.”</b> Do you need to give a gift to your fuck buddy? Friends with benefits? We polled several people and while some said “yes, something sexy,” and others said “No!” We all seemed to agree that IF you decide to gift to your sexy friend, it should revolve around sex. Romantic gifts, or sentimental gifts can be sketchy…. let’s face it, we don’t want to send the wrong message and risk losing the sexual relationship.</p>
<p><b>And lastly, what to gift to your lover that won't empty out your wallet?</b> With communication being the key to great sex... most of what we crave is simply the idea of being desired.</p>
<p>1. Leave them a romantic love note, or wrap it up top it off with a bow!</p>
<p>2. Send them a sexy text message! If they're into <a href="http://askmiyoko.blogspot.com/2014/10/talk-dirty-to-me.html">dirty talk</a>, this is even more of a treat!</p>
<p>3. Take a bath with them... pour your favorite drink of choice, light some candles, and just soak and talk... and let the stress of the holidays roll off, while the magic of reconnection rolls in...</p>
<p>4. Give them a sensual massage. And we don't mean it has to come with a happy ending. Really do something just for their pleasure... make it all about pampering them.</p>
5. Feed them. Food has so many underlying messages and sexy undertones. Nourish them, tease them, delight their tastebuds... (and if you need help with food ideas, read this post about <a href="http://askmiyoko.blogspot.com/2014/12/lets-play-with-our-food.html">playing with food</a>.)
To hear the entire show about buying holiday gifts for your lover, listen to <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">episode 18 on Play With Me on Playboy Radio</a>!</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-22756880139948836622014-12-11T15:08:00.000-08:002014-12-11T15:09:19.219-08:00Let's Play With Our Food!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-JYVuGSOR05M/VIojSXYMtFI/AAAAAAAAA3M/OAxQLZYh71c/s1600/IMG_0462.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-JYVuGSOR05M/VIojSXYMtFI/AAAAAAAAA3M/OAxQLZYh71c/s400/IMG_0462.JPG" /></a></div>
<p>Does the idea of food and sex turn you on? We’ve just recently celebrated the biggest day for gluttony,
and while most people think of it as a non-sexual holiday, I’m here to debate that idea. I find food incredibly sexy. The smells, the flavors, the textures of certain foods as they melt, dissolve or absorb into my mouth. I love the tangy, the salty, the sweet, and even the bitterness of foods, but they have to be the right flavors for the right foods. There’s something that happens when amazing food touches your lips. As the aromas are deeply inhaled through the nose, and the lips part slightly to feel the first contact. Is the food warm or cold? Does it feel hard or soft in your mouth? Does it melt onto your tongue or do you need to chew it to release it’s flavors? I can’t just “eat” a banana. I want to slowly ingest it’s goodness. I can’t simply bite and swallow for sustenance. I like to revel the inside of the banana first…. expose it’s naked flesh. Does it have bruising? Or is the yellow meat perfectly ripe and ready to be devoured? Then I slowly scrape the banana with my teeth to peel the outermost layer off, so I can chew and swallow a little at a time. It’s a strange ritual, that I must admit wasn’t my original idea. I watched a woman eat a banana in this way before, and while it was highly erotic, it is also the most effective way to enjoy the flavors of this phallic fruit.</p>
<p>So how does the brain respond to food? According to Reuniting.info we are attracted to food because of it’s pleasure and reward. We’ve all heard of Pavlov’s dog, but we generally don’t apply those concepts to our own human ways. We do create and associate experiences to pleasure in much the same way, remembering and responding to cues and conditions. So when we smell a specific food, we may be reminded of a pleasurable eating experience, and when those same flavors and textures are presented to us, our bodies respond favorably. Sounds a little like sex, right?</p>
<p>So can we actually orgasm through food consumption? A woman in the UK has been eating herself to orgasm, and has even created a porn site so you can watch. Gabi Jones has a condition called persistent genital arousal syndrome where she is able to achieve orgasm without sexual arousal. I’m glad I don’t have this condition. I already love food, if it gave me orgasms as well, I don’t think I’d ever leave my kitchen.</p>
<p>I do however love incorporating my love of food with my love of sex, and highly recommend that you play with your food. Food begs to be played with. Even as small children we are delighted by it’s textures and temperatures. We are taught NOT to play with our food, because clearly….. we WANTED TO!! So forget the restrictive lessons of your youth and get creative with your lover and your next meal together.</p>
<p>How can you introduce food into the bedroom? First, have a game plan. Don’t just start throwing your spaghetti at them and think they’re going to find it sexy. If your lover is a woman, she needs to know that there’s not going to be a huge mess to clean up afterward— huge orgasm inhibitor. So plan to either play away from home, or in the shower! Where clean up can be just as sexy as getting down and dirty… </p>
<p>Next, choose foods that beg to be licked, sucked, and devoured off of your lover’s body. Generally it’s best to stay away from anything spicy or temperature hot, unless you have edible candle wax. Dessert foods, chocolate sauce, honey, pudding, are all pretty safe bets.</p>
<p>Be careful not to get any sugary foods near the opening, or inside her lady parts. Sugary foods can affect a woman’s PH balance, and disrupt her delicate flora. Unless you don’t mind her being out of commission for a week afterward, just avoid eating her out like a chocolate fountain.</p>
<p>If you’re planning on using some stiff vegetables to penetrate your lover, make sure they’re clean and free from any loose parts, or slap a condom on it for extra sanitary measure.</p>
<p>Food and oral pleasures can bring on all kinds of sensory responses. From the associations and experiences we connect to the food itself, to the aromas, the textures, the temperature of foods… play with your lover, don’t just spray a dollop of whip cream and end the fun there. Find places to tease them with the food. Feed them. Pour liquids onto your body and let it roll into their mouths. Take a culinary journey with them. The goal isn’t to get to the sex, the sensual experience is what you’ve dedicated time to accomplish. Play…</p>
<p>To hear to the my show on playing with food, food play, which foods enhance your sex life, and which foods are known aphrodisiacs, listen to <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">episode 16 on Play With Me on Playboy Radio</a>!</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-71149425759936170782014-11-28T14:17:00.001-08:002014-11-28T14:21:02.386-08:00How to shave your lover...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ihuAFFZcXrI/VHj0bmbfBpI/AAAAAAAAA28/ONpNtwoNdYI/s1600/Shave.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ihuAFFZcXrI/VHj0bmbfBpI/AAAAAAAAA28/ONpNtwoNdYI/s400/Shave.jpg" /></a></div>
<p>As Movember comes to a close, I felt it was the perfect follow-up to our previous post, <a href="http://askmiyoko.blogspot.com/2014/11/to-shave-or-not-to-shave.html">"To Shave or not to Shave."</a> While shaving his overgrown beard from his month of facial growth in support of men's health is NOT what we're talking about here... I suppose the same tips and techniques could be applied. I would definitely, however; consult with a trusted and known source for expert advice in this area. ;)<p>
<p><b>As for the nether regions, I feel pretty confident sharing my years of experience and expertise!</b> Shaving your lover can be a super sexy and erotic experience for both of you. Not only because you're staring their private parts in the face, but because they've also trusted you with the most intimate bits and pieces. So take a deep breath, calm your nerves, 'cuz shaky hands aren't a good thing when you've a sharp object around their genitals.</p>
<p><b>1. First things first, BE PREPARED!!</b> Shaving delicate parts require the right tools. A foamy shave cream for a smooth shave, and a new razor. A good disposable razor is fine for this. <i>(You may also need some scissors if they haven't done much trimming in the area recently. Make sure the hair is short enough to be shave easily.)</i></p>
<p><b>2. Set the scene: </b> Light some candles in the bathroom, but don't dim the lights too much (you need to see what you're doing, and you'll want to!!) Play some sexy tunes, pour yourselves a glass of wine, or a scotch neat, and settle in for the adventure ahead.</p>
<p><b>3. Warm the hair follicles with a hot bath, shower, or warm washcloth first.</b></p>
<p><b>4. Apply the foaming shave cream or work up a good lather with a soap, or use hair conditioner!</b></p>
<p><b>5. Always shave WITH the grain of the hair growth!!</b> I will admit, there were times when I shaved against the grain of my hair growth, BUT I WAS A PROFESSIONAL!! I needed to get a super code shave, and I knew what the consequences might be! Don't take this risk with your lover's body. Razor burn sucks, and can potentially ruin the night. </p>
<p><b>6. Don't worry too much about the finished product.</b> It's not about the end result, but about the experience. Use your wet fingers to run them over the area around their genitals and anus to make sure you haven't missed any stray hairs. Have them place a leg up on the side of the bathtub, or on a stool and kneel before them while you work. Tell them what you see. Comment on how much you love seeing their naked flesh.</p>
<p>Be careful with sharp objects!! Play safe, and have fun!</p>
<p>To hear to the full show on Shaving, listen to Episode 15 on Play With on <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">Playboy Radio.</a>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-6939728870438529792014-11-28T13:51:00.001-08:002014-12-11T12:17:39.176-08:00To Shave or Not to Shave?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-wo-pEUzcJSo/VHjuZ6Dey1I/AAAAAAAAA2s/4-kx7_eTA2I/s1600/pubes.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-wo-pEUzcJSo/VHjuZ6Dey1I/AAAAAAAAA2s/4-kx7_eTA2I/s400/pubes.JPG" /></a></div>
<p>Pubic hair is a touchy conversation. People either love it or hate it, and those who hate it think nobody should have it. I am surprised to hear women talk about other women’s bodies that offend them. “If you’re gonna be naked in the locker room, you need to whack that bush!” “Nobody wants to see that!” Don’t women who want to keep their natural hair “down there” deserve the same consideration as those who want to shave or wax it? No other topic I’ve discussed has ever garnered the same reaction as the question of whether or not to shave your pubic hair.</p>
<p>The fact is, we’ve been obsessed with pubic hair for centuries… even in early art history, pubic hair was taboo. <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/roger-friedland/women-pubic-hair_b_875465.html">Roger Friedland</a> wrote an interesting dissertation on the topic of why pubic hair has been slowly disappearing. He points out that even artists such as Michaelangelo painted hairless nudes, as showing pubic hair was forbidden. When Francisco de Goya did create his work La Maja Desnuda with full bush for the Spanish Prime Minister (who kept it hidden in a private room, and only showed it to people he trusted), he was called before the Spanish Inquisition to defend himself and his art. The woman in the painting was not only showing her pubic hair, but was also looking right at you, the voyeur. The suggestion that she was not ashamed of her nakedness added to the scandal of the work itself. The controversial piece suggested a woman who owned her own sexual desire and that idea was frightening.</p>
<p>He goes on to explain that in the 1950’s and 60’s when nudity in film was banned, that producers would simply omit pubic to have the film approved. Edward Craven Walker (the creator of the lava lamp, and Naturism advocate) was able to successfully produce his naturist films by this little loop hole.</p>
<p>So when did pubic hair make it’s debut in the mainstream? 1974, the year Hustler showed bush for the first time. It was shocking to be actually showing the secret garden of sex and magic that lies between a woman’s legs…showing the raw, thought provoking, hormone inducing patch of fur that promised pleasure within.</p>
<p>And how did this divine moment lead to the disappearance of the bush? According to Friedland, it was also what was happening in the feminist movement and how Hustler as well as Playboy and other men’s magazines produced spin offs that could be considered a response to the Equal Rights Amendment of 1972. He theorizes that these liberated women of the time were full of hair, and men craved a return to the submissive, sexually available female who was available for his pleasure…. then came Barely Legal. Girls who looked so young, who had less pubic hair, who were ready and waiting to please. His suggests that the lack of pubic hair de-humanizes the female genitalia, creating an emotionally-free zone, free from the instincts of biology and reproduction, therefore allowing a blank space to simply fuck.</p>
<p>This theory definitely makes many valid points, but I wonder if those same points could also be used to argue that women were also empowered by taking control of their genitalia in the same way? Perhaps these women also wanted a sex life free from emotional ties and potential reproductive consequence. Perhaps desexualizing their own genitals made them feel more casual about sex for recreation.</p>
<p>Whatever the reason that pubic hair began disappearing in public, the general populace seems to be happy about it. While the small group of people I polled are about even when it comes to whether it should be gone, or allowed to roam somewhat trimmed, but freely, most definitely preferred it wasn’t wild. People associate pubic hair with uncleanliness. They commented on the possible smells, unwanted hitchhikers, and overall “mess” that could be connected with unruly pubes. So if you care what your lover might say about your bush being wild a free, I would suggest you trim it back before the first encounter, or simply ask what they prefer. If you’re a man or woman who likes your partner to have more than a hacked lawn, you may also want to ask them to go a little lighter on the trim.</p>
<p>Not all of us sexually active people prefer a bald vulva or penis. In fact, some of us are slightly less turned on when the pants come off and there’s no fur to nuzzle our faces into. Some of us love the fresh, and not-so-fresh smell of our lover at the end of a long day, so before you go crazy with the razor, have a conversation with your current sex partner and find out what they like to see and feel when you drop your drawers.</p>
<p>To listen to the entire episode on "To Shave or Not to Shave" on <i>Play With Me</i> on Playboy Radio, <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">click her</a>e!</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-65241776197028687892014-11-12T20:26:00.000-08:002014-11-13T09:30:03.957-08:00Tinder Tips, Online Flirting, and how to sext your wife!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="//3.bp.blogspot.com/-4TnfZgO02PI/VGLGukzqZZI/AAAAAAAAA1o/fKDHb7RHVak/s1600/Tinderpic.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="//3.bp.blogspot.com/-4TnfZgO02PI/VGLGukzqZZI/AAAAAAAAA1o/fKDHb7RHVak/s400/Tinderpic.JPG" /></a></div><p>The world of online dating and cyber flirtations is one that requires some experience and navigation. My single and divorced friends seem to fair pretty well, but I <i>can't imagine</i> having to actually sift through the plethora of potential mates that are readily available. Not to mention, the rejection, inappropriate and sometimes shocking messages that seem to be a part of the game.... and yes, it is a game.</p>
<p>There is definitely an element of fun and excitement that comes along with setting up a profile on any social media, and dating sites are even more hormone inducing. The fact that the you're even creating a profile on a dating site brings a certain testosterone and adrenaline boost. The thrill of the possibilities and the initial "likes" and "matches" pump chemicals straight from the brain into the bloodstream. Scientists are already testing theories on how these constant dopamine boosts affect our brain and body development, but for the time being, let's just concede that these responses do in fact exist. <b>You know the feeling... your phone dings... your Facebook notifies you that someone likes your post... your Instagram and Twitter accounts boast new followers... dopamine, dopamine, dopamine... reward for a job well done.</p></b>
<p>Now let's apply this to the online dating scene. You post a profile, you swipe right on a hot girl or guy, and it's a match! Instant wood.... later you get a notification that they like your "moment," or has sent you a "message." GAME ON. What happens from here is entirely in the way you play it.</p>
<p><b>Guys: If you send a message, try something more than "Hi." Or "Hello."</b> Unless it's a very enthusiastic "Helloooooo...." followed by an excited Emoji. Give us girls some recognition. Comment on something you saw or read on the profile. <b>Make us feel a little special. Whether you want to actually date us or just have sex with us… it’s all the same game.</b> Make conversation. Give us a chance to feel comfortable with you. If we’re DTF, we’ll let you know. The banter will come naturally.</p>
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<p><b>DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES</b> start sending immediate messages about your dick, her mouth, or any other sexual part of her body!!!</p>
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<p>GET A CLUE... TAKE A HINT... DON'T BE A CREEP...</p>
<p>If she hasn’t asked for a pic of your third leg, don’t send it… no matter how awesome you think you are. We just don’t respond well to uninvited images of your bits and pieces, sorry guys. <b>Women need an emotional component to visual stimuli, we don’t need to be in-love, but we need… something…</b> </p>
<p>That being said, once she’s asked for a naughty pic, make it good one. Bathroom selfies are fine, if you’re laying in bed, please take the socks off, or crop them out of the picture. If you’re hand is on your featured asset, <i>make sure your nails and your joystick are clean.</i></p>
<p><b>Girls: It's pretty simple. What is the goal?</b> If it's to find a real relationship, don't come on too strong with the flirtatious vibes. Tinder is generally known as a hook-up site, so be forewarned. But I also do know of people who like the people they meet on Tinder better than any other site or app, and even people who have gotten married. But be clear about your purpose. If you want to date a guy, don’t send seductive messages, or sexy selfies once you go off Tinder and onto texts. Wait until you’ve actually met them in person (and perhaps even had sex with them) before you send suggestive messages. It can be confusing to these poor guys who, let’s face it, may not know exactly what they want. </p>
<p>If you’re looking for a straight hook-up, be direct. Again, guys can be a little clueless, or even scared, so make your messages as plain as possible. That doesn’t mean they don’t like a little banter too, or even to feel like they’ve chase you a <i>little</i> bit… but <b>DO let them know that you’re not playing games.</b> Ask them to take the conversation off of Tinder, ask them for pics, so you know what you’re getting when the clothes come off, and that they actually do look like their profile pics. Be cautious of which racy pics you send, no faces or identifying marks!! If this is a "hit it and quit it" situation, you <i>can’t</i> trust that they won’t be shared.</p>
<p><b>Here are a few tips for getting your profile liked on these apps and sites:</b></p>
<p>1. Both sexes: Use your best pics first! The initial swipes are based on looks… shallow, but true. If you’re not the most attractive guy or gal, ask an honest pal which pics make you look the most interesting or appealing. NO Seatbelt car pics... for real. And try to post pics that show a variety of facial expressions to really show your personality.</p>
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<p>2. Guys: Don’t post pics of you with a fish! Women just don’t care. If you are into fishing, tell them in person. If you’re trying to send subliminal messages about your ability to provide food for me… uh. please don’t … Ladies: This applies to your pics with your kids. Yes, you're a mom, but unless you're looking for a replacement daddy, nobody cares about your kids yet. Just write it in the profile description.</p>
<p>3. Both sexes: Don’t post multiple pics with a bunch of friends. First of all, they'll have to figure out which one is you, and they might think one of your friends is hot. So if they did date you, and your friend showed up somewhere, it could get complicated. One is fine, multiples is just asking for a left swipe.</p>
<p>4. Both sexes: Make sure we can see your face clearly. If there are too many far away shots… it’s a left swipe.</p>
<p>5. Both sexes: Pics with puppies and or cats... play this one modestly. Guys: we know you're playing with our emotions here, so just know that we're on to you. Girls: Too many cat pics are a red flag... just saying.</p>
<b>So how do the married people get in on the game?</b> Send naughty messages to each other!! Pretend as though you're meeting online for the first time, and start a conversation. Perhaps you're created "stage names" ahead of time, so you know that when your husband or wife refer to you as a certain name, that it's time to play. Give them the dopamine jolt by dinging their phone with flirtatious and sexy messages throughout the day. Ask them to meet you for coffee, or a cheap motel room and play out the fantasy of hooking up for the first time. Not only do you get to flirt with your partner, but the two of you can also play out roles that might be different from your everyday lives. Don't let the stress of work and family life kill your sex-life with your partner. Find ways to create fun games and new sexual experiences for each other to keep them lusting you, even after all these years.
<p>If you need tips on how to take a sexy selfie, <a href="http://askmiyoko.blogspot.com/2013/12/the-ultimate-sexy-selfie-um-and-how-to.html">read my post here</a>!</p>
<p>To hear to the full show on Tinder Tips, Online flirting, and how to sext your wife, listen to Episode 15 on Play With on <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">Playboy Radio.</a>
Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-70913647794817387312014-11-06T09:26:00.001-08:002014-11-06T09:26:48.137-08:00Get Jacked! Which rabbit is right for you?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-kX39VI2nPsI/VFuqqfWow9I/AAAAAAAAA1U/Rx2nKzIxHk8/s1600/10710977_10203929758057796_5971752523481220814_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-kX39VI2nPsI/VFuqqfWow9I/AAAAAAAAA1U/Rx2nKzIxHk8/s400/10710977_10203929758057796_5971752523481220814_n.jpg" /></a></div><p>With so many choices available, how’s one to decide which rabbit is “the one?” This question may seem trivial, but just like men, rabbits come in all different shapes, sizes, options, and colors. They provide different types of stimulation, come with different motors, and provide you with different orgasms.</p>
<p><b>So let’s break it down like we would a lover:</p>
<P>The Romantic</p>
<p>The Sport Fuck</p>
<p>The Ass Man</p>
<p>The Voyeur</p>
<p>The Giver</p></b>
<p><b>The Romantic-Just like his title suggests, the Romantic is a deep kisser.</b> They like to breathe you in and give you pleasure that feels like a long delicious exhale. Can a rabbit really do that, you ask? Depends on the rabbit. I had the pleasure (literally) of reviewing one such rabbit. There's something about the sensual rotation of this particular shaft, and the velvety smooth silicone material that slides easily inside with very little lubrication... Just saying.</p>
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<p><b>The Sport Fuck- You know him… he’s always good for an energetic bang, and he can do it for hours… great if you want to skip the gym and make sex your workout.</b> He isn’t much into emotional connection, in fact, he may not actually look you in the eyes at all. It doesn’t matter, because you can’t really take your eyes off his fine ass body anyway... and by the time he’s done with you, you look like you’ve been through the tumble dry. You’d be satisfied getting drilled by this powerful rabbit… may I introduce you to the Power Bumper …</p>
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<p><b>The Ass Man-No matter what position this lover puts you in, you know they’ll never really be happy unless they get to play with your ass.</b> And this works just fine for you, you like a little ass play every now and then too. There are a few triple stimulators out there, but this one provides a flexible slim probe with it’s own dedicated bullet to stimulate the perineum, or insert into the anus for intense pleasure.</p>
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<p><b>The Voyeur-aw yeah, they like to watch.</b> You’ve seen the smile on their face widen as they watches you climax. The rabbit vibe itself is not the voyeur in this situation, but rather a key player to the scene. He straps to your lover’s leg to provide a front row seat to all your contorted and satisfied faces. In this scenario, you'll need two components, the strap on thigh harness, and the Jack Rabbit ring, but I promise you, with these two items, someone will be getting a great show. BONUS: you can use them separately for all kinds of other play.</p>
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<p><b>The Giver- Just as the name suggests this rabbit vibe straps onto your lover’s body and gives them the ability to pleasure you.</b> Imagine feeling the weight of them on top of you as you're being massaged internally, vibrated internally, and deeply kissed passionately by the person wearing the vibe… ‘nuff said.</p>
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<p>Hear the entire show and reviews of some of these rabbits on Episode 11 on my show <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">Play With Me on Playboy Radio</a>.</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-26449001583454416282014-10-23T09:17:00.000-07:002014-11-06T09:29:39.768-08:00Bubble Love-a review of this bath time adventure toy!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-E_5fvP-R6NQ/VEkmfLqPTbI/AAAAAAAAAz4/AAG82vxmnzU/s1600/bubblelove.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-E_5fvP-R6NQ/VEkmfLqPTbI/AAAAAAAAAz4/AAG82vxmnzU/s400/bubblelove.jpg" /></a></div>
<p>Water is undeniably sexy.... there's something about the feeling of water lapping against your naked body, or dripping down your exposed flesh... even though the reality of sex on a warm sandy beach isn't as pleasurable as it sounds, we're still drawn to the fantasy of it.</p>
<p>It's about time that someone created a <a href="http://www.bubblelove.com">truly waterproof product</a> that will allow women to fulfill these liquid fantasies in the comfort of their own bathtub, jacuzzi, or hell... dare I say, even a kiddie pool. That's right, this baby can work in as little as 6".... not that 6" is little...</p>
<p>So how does it work? When I first opened the box, I was a little confused, and afraid to break the sleek beauty. I went online to find instructions, and was thrilled to see a very adorable, easy to follow tutorial to get me set up.</p>
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<p>Within minutes, I was ready to go. My hot bath was full, my body was tingling with anticipation, and I felt confident I could operate the equipment. I suctioned the motor to the base of my tub and fired her up. The flow of bubbles can be adjusted from a delicate tease to a blast of pressure. I was able to comfortably maneuver the stream of happiness to exactly the spot I wanted (unlike trying to position my lady parts below a water spout for any extended length of time). Success!! This toy definitely has what it takes to get the job done, but there's also the extras you can add on... Meet the Dilly...</p>
<p>He's hard, white, and girthy enough for most women's preferences... although may be a little much for women who don't want much to stimulate them internally. While I do like to masturbate this way sometimes, I found it a little less pleasurable than just using the bubbles alone. I also wasn't really prepared, and didn't have a silicone lube by the tub. Had I been a smart wanker, I would've been ready for anything. And as you might understand, once I was rub a dub-dubbing, I got too lazy to get out of the tub to grab my lube. It's okay though... there's always next time.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.bubblelove.com">That's right, the Bubble Love</a> is fully rechargeable, so feel free to use and abuse it. As long as you keep it juiced, it will be a faithful companion to your bath time adventures!</p>
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<p>Hear the entire show and review of The Bubble Love on Episode 4 on my show <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">Play With Me on Playboy Radio</a>.</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-10227834074716336362014-10-16T16:15:00.000-07:002014-11-06T09:30:22.764-08:00Tune in Tokyo! Breast and Nipple play<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-7Y67IGLn7w4/VEBTkcqswmI/AAAAAAAAAzk/LH1KFO7NYLo/s1600/nippleplay.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-7Y67IGLn7w4/VEBTkcqswmI/AAAAAAAAAzk/LH1KFO7NYLo/s400/nippleplay.JPG" /></a></div>
<p>We all remember the scene from Girl’s Just wanna have fun where the line, “Wanna play tune in Tokyo?” is delivered…. unless you’re simply not as old as I am… in which case, I’ll explain. Tune in Tokyo was the guy’s way of getting her hands up out of the way so he could cop a feel, and essentially play with the girl’s nipples. Men are notoriously fascinated with boobs, tits, fun bags, whatever other way you’d like to refer to breasts. But along with breasts, come the delicious little nubs of pleasure and delight, called nipples.</p>
<p>Nipples don’t get nearly enough play time. Generally when people talk about sex, it’s straight up P to V…. in different positions, if you’re lucky. And then if you’re really blessed, you might be able to include oral sex. I’m all about playing, and when I refer to sex, it includes any and every possible scenario! So let’s discuss the possibility and potential of nipple orgasms. Is it possible for a women to reach orgasm through the stimulation of her nipples alone?</p>
<p>According to fMRI studies, the same area of the brain is activated through nipple stimulation as is during clitoral, and vaginal stimulation. The sensory cortex is the activated in the same way during nipple stimulation, as it is during clitoral, vaginal, and cervical stimulation. So…. YES!!! You can orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.</p>
<p>I must say however that tweaking a nipple, sucking it briefly during foreplay, and sucking it during sex for a moment does not constitute nipple play. Guys, does licking the tip of your penis equal a blow-job? Would grazing your anus with a tongue during a blow-job equal a rim-job? I think not. So unless you’re really focusing your attention on the nipples for a solid 10 minutes, it doesn’t count as nipple play.</p>
<p>That being said: Here are five tips for bringing them to orgasm through nipple stimulation.</p>
<p>1. Get them ready to play-kiss them deeply, touch their body, whisper in their ear.</p>
<p>2. Spend time lick and massaging the entire breast, without touching their nipples.</p>
<p>3. Lap their nipples and all around the areola with a flat, soft, wet tongue.</p>
<p>4. Use the thumb and fore-finger to lift the nipple off the breast, and flick and suck the nipples alternately.</p>
<p>Keep going…. invest the time, keep licking and sucking the nipples to bring them to orgasm.</p>
<p>If your nipples, or your partners nipples aren’t as sensitive as you would like. Nipple clamps can be a great tool to create sensitivity. We reviewed the feather nipple clamps on Playboy Radio, and it got rave reviews! The sexy black feather tickler can be used all over the body to tickle and tease, and the adjustable clamps accommodate most all sizes of nipples! The tension can also be adjustable providing as little or as much pinch as you desire.</p>
<p>Click on the video below and hear what our panelists had to say.</p>
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<p>Hear the entire show on Episode 8 on my show <a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">Play With Me on Playboy Radio</a>.</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-65278085898872730072014-10-02T11:50:00.000-07:002014-11-06T09:32:15.034-08:00Talk Dirty to me<p>We’ve heard that men are more visually stimulated and women are more audibly stimulated. B what the studies really represent is the encompassing of all the senses for women to be truly turned on. While the actual physicality of the act of sex can stimulate the male brain, women require an emotional component to the visual. I’m not saying they have to see a romantic story per se, but that generally there needs to be a story attached to the act, thus creating an emotional piece to the scene.</p>
<p>So what does this have to do with talking dirty?</p>
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<p><b>What you say is as important as how you say it.</b> Whether you’re telling your girl she’s a dirty slut, or that she’s a goddess who deserves to be worshipped, you’re creating a feeling. Telling a story before, during, or after your hot sex session isn’t rocket science, but it’s definitely an art.</p>
<p>So how does your partner want to be talked to? What kind of sounds and words do they respond well to? And what words DON’T work for them? Have they told you how sexy you sound when you’re cumming? This is a good indication that they like hearing you. If you’re not sure if they’ll respond well to dirty talk, try whispering in their ear a few light and sexy phrases.</p>
<p>“You feel so good…”</p>
<p>“If you keep doing that, you’re going to make me cum.”</p>
<p>If they give you a a vocal response of any kind, they are probably open or at least intrigued by your words. This is a great way to test the waters before cannonballing in. After you’ve finished your session, talk about it. Ask them if they liked it when you talked in their ear. Ask them if they’d like you to talk more. Ask them what kind of things they’d like to hear. For example, many of our female panel wasn't turned on by the words penis and vagina. So saying, "I want to lick your vagina" may not get the juices flowing. Similarly, "Suck my penis" didn't make any top five lists either... in case you felt compelled to use the anatomical words for your sex bits. Some women would be be turned on by being called a "whore," while others would get up a leave. So find out their YES! words, as well as the ones that dry up the well, or shrivel the boys. Otherwise, tread lightly.</p>
<p>Once you get the green light, see where your dirty dialogue takes you! Will it be descriptive? Intructional? Or used for playing out fantasy scenarios? Will you tell them how you can wait to make love to them, or what they will be wearing when you get home from work, and what you will do to them if they are not obedient, or will you be the head master at an all girl's Catholic School who's just found out she has been smoking in the bathroom? The possibilities are endless when it comes to the magic that can spew from your lips. Let it flow, get creative, be frisky, be playful, and bask in the magic of your sexual lyrics.</p>
<p><b>New to Dirty Talk and need some tips?</b> Here are some expert tips from former Phone Sex Operator and Sex Educator Ashley Manta!</p>
<p>1. Use someone else’s words… read straight from some erotica.</p>
<p>2. Practice out loud while you’re alone driving in the car, or while you masturbate. (bonus: it makes masturbation hotter too!)</p>
<p>3. Dirty Madlibs! You can fill in the blanks to create some super sexy and orgasm inducing statements. <a href="http://www.friskyfeminist.com/guides/feminists-guide-phone-sex/">Dowload her free e-book here</a> to get more tips to mind-blowing dirty talk.</p>
<p><b>Long Distance lovers?</b> Start their day off with a naughty text and keep the fun going all day long. Arrange a day and time when you can both stay focused on your phone frolic! You'll be surprised how much the written word can keep people connected who are challenged by distance. Hone your skills via text and recorded voice memos and see how practice makes perfect when your expert prose finally has the chance to be spoken in person.</p>
<a href="http://bit.ly/PlayWithMeShow">Listen to our full show Episode 7 on Playboy Radio</a>, including some suggestions of talking dirty from our listeners, our panel, and the interview with <a href="http://www.ashleymanta.com">Ashley Manta</a>!
Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-30813714211162568372014-09-29T17:00:00.000-07:002014-09-29T17:00:36.182-07:00Would you have a threesome to save your marriage?<p>Okay, maybe not “save your marriage,” obviously I was going for the shock factor in the tagline. Clearly if you feel like you’d have to have a threesome to “save” your marriage, it’s probably in need of more than sexual variety. But would you be willing to invite another person into your sex life to spice up your long term otherwise monogamous relationship?<p>
<p>I know it sounds extreme, but hear me out. The odds are simply not in your favor when it comes to true lifelong sexual monogamy with your partner. Even the people who sign up for traditionally monogamous relationships are doomed to some kind of affair or infidelity to affect their partnership. It is estimated that up to 80% of marriages will be affected by an indiscretion by one partner or the other… whether it is actually discovered or not, of course, is the question. When asked if people would cheat if they knew they wouldn’t get caught, 84% of men said YES along with 68% of women. These are big numbers people!!</p>
<p>The good news is that when an infidelity is discovered, that 30% of marriages affected by the affair would work through it. So clearly, for a majority of people, sexual non-monogamy is ultimately acceptable. So why not communicate this desire with your partner before the lying, cheating, and drama unfold?</p>
<p>Consider discussing your boundaries more clearly before you commit to lifelong sexual monogamy. What wouldn’t be acceptable to you? Would you be okay if your partner had an affair on a work trip as long as you didn’t know about it? Would you be into watching your partner with another person? Would you be okay if they simply flirted and sexted online, but didn’t ever physically connect with the person? These are valid questions! Especially when a huge majority of men don’t consider online flirtations cheating….?! what?…really.</p>
<p>Ultimately it’s up to you to decide what is right for your relationship. If sex isn’t important to you, you may not feel the need to explore this concept further… but what if sex is important to your partner? Open the dialogue to discuss specifics. Then check in every year, or every 5 to 10 years if that’s more appropriate for your relationship.</p>
<p>Do you value honesty and communication? Do you value self-respect? These are things that should be clearly discussed. Many times people who discover an affair aren’t necessarily bothered by the sex, but by the opinion of others, should they find out. Would it devastate you to feel as though people knew you were disrespected by your partner? Would you be able to trust your partner again, after they had gone to great lengths to lie to you, or hide something from you for so long? 30% of affairs last an average of two years…. just saying…</p>
<p>Consider alternative forms of monogamy. We clearly understand the term sexual monogamy-having sex with only one person. But what about Social Monogamy? Serial Monogamy? Emotional Monogamy? These are actual terms and can be useful tools when navigating this conversation.</p>
<p>Social Monogamy-two people living together, having sex with one another, and basically forming a union to provide food, shelter, and comforts to each other. This is a great term for many American Marriages.</p>
<p>Serial Monogamy-the practice of exclusively having a relationship with one person, emotionally and sexually, until that relationship no longer benefits one or both. At which point one or both persons would create a similar relationship with the next compatible partner. Another great term for American marriages, given the divorce rate.</p>
<p>Emotional Monogamy-the intimate sharing of life with only one person. This term is used among Swingers and Polyamorist couples to ultimately highlight the differences between the two. Swingers generally are sexually non-monogamous and emotionally monogamous. Polys are know for being both sexually and emotionally non-monogamous, creating intimate bonds with multiple partners.</p>
<p>Did you even realize that all these detailed definitions of “marriage” existed? If you or your partner are in need of sexual or emotional attention outside of your marriage, it may be a conversation you might want to have. Many women, men, and couples have asked me for advice to get their partners to either pay more attention to them, or get them to enjoy sex more, or have sex more often. In other words, there’s a lack in these relationships! And my circle of influence is pretty small in comparison to the country, or the world.</p>
<p>Talk to each other. Understand that each of you has needs and desires that should be honored, celebrated, and hopefully met. Discuss boundaries, deal breakers, and personal limitations so that you can make decisions together about what you both want and need from your marriage. If you can’t even begin the conversation with your partner, consider couples therapy.</p>
<p>Thank you to <a href="http://www.drpsychmom.com">Dr Samantha Rodman</a> for her input and expert advice on my show “Have sex like you’re single again!” For married couples who want to spice things up in the bedroom.</p>
<p>And <a href="http://kateloree.com">Kate Loree, LMFT</a> who specializes in couples who are in the Swinging, Poly, Gay, Lesian, Porn, or other form of alternative lifestyles.</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-8405267322992217772014-09-13T09:38:00.000-07:002014-11-06T09:33:02.464-08:00Play With Me Review-The taco stroker by the Screaming O (AKA Paco's Taco)<p>All masturbator sleeves are not made alike. This silicone stroker is flat and floppy when not in use, but can be folded and wrapped up to create a tasty meat taco! Simply apply the hot sauce packet (lubricant) that's included, and watch the evening heat up.</p>
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<p>The great thing about this sleeve versus other masturbators is the ability to use it interchangeably with your own hand or hands. Unlike sleeves that fully encompass the penis, this stroker leaves open space whenever and wherever you need it. It also is less rigid than many sleeves, making it more pliable and receptive to the natural movement of his, or your hand. The fact that you can still maintain a visual on his penis as it's being stroked is also a huge bonus!</p>
<p>But don't take my word for it, here's what our panel of testers had to say!</p>
<p><a href="http://www.partygalsbyAmandaHillsdale.com">PartyGalsbyAmandaHillsdale.com</a> said,"I like the texture of it, little ribbed sensation on it, accommodating for all different sizes. You don't have to be certain size. It's not going to have a pinch factor, it's a really excellent product."</p>
<p><a href="http://www.simplyperfecttoys.com">SimplyPerfectToys.com</a> said,"I discovered that it wasn't the stroke up toward the head, but rather the stroke downward that really did it for him. It was a completely different sensation, I felt like I had more control over what was happening. Thumbs up!!"</p>
<p><a href="http://www.adulttoypartiesbyjen.com">AdultToypartiesbyJen.com</a> said,"It's like a piece of bologna! Ok, Time to spank your bologna... ha ha! It's a good tool for someone who is too small for a stroker (sleeve) or too big"</p>
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<p>So why is it that men generally keep "jerking off," once they've discovered it, and women seem to get disinterested in "clicking the mouse?" Of course we all know that good girls aren't supposed to actually like sex. We're not supposed to look at, touch, or otherwise find pleasure in our lady parts... and guys, didn't you know that spanking the monkey can lead to blindness, a body riddled with disease, and a "mind in ruins?"</p>
<p>C'mon people, that's so 1800's!! Even our Victorian sisters knew how to have a good time. Even if they had to be considered "hysterical" to receive "treatment," they were still getting their issue! Now, thanks to technology and the amazing people who design, mass produce, and distribute products we can use in the privacy and comfort of our own homes, we can get-off anytime we like, but yet, we don't seem to be living up to our full potential.</p>
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<p>Thanks to <a href="http://fivethirtyeight.com/contributors/mona-chalabi/">Mona Chalabi</a> and <a href="http://fivethirtyeight.com/datalab/dear-mona-i-masturbate-more-than-once-a-day-am-i-normal/">FiveThirtyEight.com</a> we have a visual of what our masturbation habits look like on a chart.</p>
<p>According to a study done in 2009 by the National Study of Sexual Health and Behavior from Indiana University, we really don’t masturbate that often. While almost 80% of people have masturbated at some point in their lives, around 30% of women haven’t masturbated in the last year. And 20% of men say the same. The study suggests that less than 10% of women in their 30's and 40's masturbate 2-3 times per week... uh, seriously?</p>
<p>Let's consider masturbation a team sport. Forget it as a solo activity for now, even though that's part of the appeal, and grab a teammate for some mutual masturbatory fun! If we don't view masturbation as a negative thing, I believe we just might take control of the joystick more often.</p>
<p><b>Men, does your girl think that when you masturbate that you're cheating on her?</b> I have heard this a few times from women. They think that if they're laying in bed and he's using his hand instead of her vagina, that something's wrong with him... First of all, from an occasionally tired mom perspective (and those perpetually tired new moms), I just want to say thanks to all those men who take their pleasure into their own hands! Pun absolutely intended. I think it's wonderful that when you need a little stress relief, or a natural sleeping pill that you take a few minutes to hit the highlight reel and get it done. Let's face it, sex for two takes a little longer and is more energy depleting than sex for one. If you're one of "those" gals who thinks he's cheating when you hear the squish of lotion next to you at night, try coming from a place of gratitude instead. He doesn't need you to scratch him every time he has an itch.... Just saying.</p>
<p><b>Women, would your man be devastated if he caught you using your huge dildo or jack rabbit vibrator?</b> Guys, please don't feel like you're being replaced. If she has a 13" dong in her bedside drawer, it doesn't mean she's unhappy with your 5-6" average penis. It means, she knows she likes something different every now and then, and you should be thrilled that 13 inches isn't attached to a human. And as for the Jack Rabbit vibe that has a rabbit clitoral stimulator and a spinning shaft complete with massaging ball bearings... ummm, if your penis can do that, please private message me, I'd like to be your agent. Guys, consider this instead... your girl actually likes sex?! You should celebrate the fact that she doesn't have any hang-ups about her body and her orgasms, and feel honored that she chose you to be intimate with.</p>
<p>So how do these solo players um, come together? Try masturbating together for a change! Here are a few suggestions to include your lover (or a random stranger) for your next stroking or paddling session:</p>
<p><b>1. Have a meeting in-person</b>. Sit within close proximity, or even touch each other during your normal method of masturbation. Use your hands, toys, and any other accessories that finish the job for you.</p>
<p><b>2. Make it a movie night.</b> Find out what kind of porn your lover likes and put it on the big screen! (I recommend having your favorite drama or comedy and a bowl of popcorn for afterward, the <a href="http://www.pleated-jeans.com/2011/04/18/infographic-masturbation-facts-and-statistics/">average viewing time for hotel porn is only 12 minutes!!</a>)</p>
<p><b>3. Skype or text session.</b> This is perfect for those who might have performance anxiety about their solo practice. You can snap, shoot, and send pics in different stages of your arousal (and completion) or just do it all live on Skype or FaceTime.</p>
<p><b>4. Tell them after the fact.</b> Simply sharing your masturbation session in sexy explicit detail will make them feel included. Communicating that you gave yourself pleasure, especially if it included fantasizing about your partner, will be such a huge turn-on, but it also initiates conversations about expectations and boundaries for your relationship.</p>
<p> CUE THEME SONG:</p>
<p>Open and honest communication is always key when it comes to building good relationships, romantic, sexual or otherwise. Share your desires and needs with your partner, listen to theirs, and always find new ways to play with each other.</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-13548076919099194862014-09-04T11:43:00.000-07:002014-09-04T11:43:23.054-07:00Celebrity Nude photos leaked-scandal or a sign of things to er, come?<p>By now you must've heard about (and tried looking for) nude photos of celebrities like <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/31/jennifer-lawrence-nude-photos_n_5745260.html">Kate Upton and Jennifer Lawrence that were leaked onto the internet.</a> Apparently the FBI is getting involved as this invasion of privacy affects more than just the victims of the hacking, but it affects the security and privacy of us all. After all, if the elite and wealthy aren't safe, who is...? Or perhaps that's exactly why they're not safe? Being in the limelight certainly makes people into targets in our reality-obsessed, voyeuristic society.</p>
<p><b>But the media response to the situation is what has caused me to blog.</b> The question being raised is, who is to blame, victims or hackers? And then there's the judgements surrounding these women (although there are penis pics too, yes, I've actually seen them)...</p>
<p>Let's start with the question about who is to blame. Is it the celebrity female's FAULT for taking graphic nude photos (or allowing themselves to be photographed, they are not all selfies), knowing that they could POTENTIALLY be exposed? I personally don't think they should be blamed, but I definitely understand the risks myself when I shoot ahem, "personal" pics ... does that mean I deserve to have private photos plastered all over the internet should they be accidentally sent to the wrong person (almost happened..), or somehow obtained by hackers...? Or should what I choose to do with my body and my intimate life be protected from the eyes of everyone else in the world that doesn't have my permission to see them?!! Such a tough concept I know, but I'm leaning more toward the latter. Whether you think these women are being inappropriate by taking *gasp* naked photos or not, does it really mean that they deserve the potential shame and embarrassment from them being shared with the world?</p>
<p>Here comes the judgment... I'll repeat, <i>"Shame and embarrassment..."</i></p>
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<p>Should they not have taken these photos in the first place? I'm sure many men and women (okay maybe mostly women) would say that they would never have these kind of pictures in their phone. Unfortunately sex and nudity are both synonymous with lewd in our culture... It's a fact that saddens me daily. What adult people choose (there's that word again) to do with their bodies and consensually share with another person or persons, shouldn't not only be acceptable, it should be celebrated. <b>Not shamed, not judged, not ridiculed (aka bullying), but rather, our freedom to choose what to do and share should be honored and respected.</b></p>
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<p>Thanks to arguments on both sides of the debate on the threads of <a href="http://www.justjared.com/2014/08/31/jennifer-lawrence-ariana-grande-more-celebs-fall-victim-to-nude-photo-leak-after-alleged-massive-phone-hack/?utm_source=huffingtonpost.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange_article">JustJared.com</a> and <a href="http://www.justjared.com/2014/08/31/jennifer-lawrence-ariana-grande-more-celebs-fall-victim-to-nude-photo-leak-after-alleged-massive-phone-hack/?utm_source=huffingtonpost.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange_article">huffingtonpost.com</a>, I have been thoroughly entertained.
<p>Does knowing that our privacy isn't safe make you less inclined to snap that sexy selfie? Or does the fact that yes, you're not the only one doing it, make you feel more empowered to point and shoot? Will this security breach change the way we sext in the future? I'd love to hear your thoughts! :)</p>Miyokohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06467917016104810701noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6396516010120802422.post-5654630182832163762014-08-28T08:35:00.000-07:002014-11-06T09:33:38.444-08:00Stella 2 balls-because you SHOULD play with your balls!Once you've decided that <a href="http://askmiyoko.blogspot.com/2014/08/sex-fitness-why-you-should-and-shouldnt.html">doing your kegels is right for you</a>, you may want to consider some tools to help!
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<p>Let me introduce you to my little friend...</p>
<p>The Stella 2 balls are a trio of weighted kegel balls that can be worn individually or with two safely nestled inside the silicone casing. They are all coated with the same anti-bacterial silicone material, giving them the soft, safe, yet "grippy" feeling that you can easily keep these babies in while going about your errands, exercising, or hitting the dance floor! (and yes, these are all things I would recommend doing with your ball in!)</p>
<p>We had our panelist of reviewers test them out, and while most all of us ladies agreed that they were a bit big for our tastes, they were pretty darn stellar.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.simplyperfecttoys.com">Simplyperfecttoys.com</a> said, "They were a bit big for me, I felt like I could only squeeze so hard."</p>
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<p>Susan said, "I did actually like the material they were made out of, they seem like they'd stay in better than something made out of metal."</p>
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<p>It happens... that point in a relationship where watching a TV show, or even sleeping, is suddenly more exciting that the prospect of sex with your partner. It's not that you don't love them anymore, or that you're not sexually attracted to them anymore (well, most of the time). So why is it so much work to muster up the energy to actually start the ball rolling...?</p>
<p><i><b>Let's back track for just a second and clarify. I'm referring to relatively happy couples in monogamous relationships, who do still care for one another...</p></i></b>
<p>So, what's a guy or gal to do when the desire and passion starts to fade?</p>
<p>Let's first discuss why the passion starts to fade and take it from there...
<p>There are several reasons why people lose the sexual energy they once had with their long-term or lifelong partner. Let's be real... we've tapped that before.. we already know what we're getting... we've already been there, done that...</p>
<p><b> Reason 1. There's no element of surprise and spontaneity anymore for many couples. In other words, we're bored. Solution: Plan a romantic night out for your lover! Shop for sexy lingerie, or bring home a new sex toy! Create new moments of sexy experiences to keep the fire burning!</p></b>
<p>Then there's the actual time it takes to have sex. Many parents are already exhausted from work and caring for the kids. That generally leaves evening for any possibility of sex. But they don't have a place to have sex, because their kids are still awake. When the kids are finally asleep, they don't have the energy. <i>(this is assuming, of course, that one or both partners isn't bothered by, and is capable of completing the task, knowing that their kids might hear them)</i>
<p><b>Reason 2. Lack of time and/or availability of location for sex. Solution: Make date night a priority! Plan time to spend together, if you have the money, get a hotel room, or drop the kids off at the in-laws and make sexual reconnection an important part of your life!</p></b>
<p>Now let's consider the hormones necessary for the libido to function properly.</p>
<p>Testosterone has been widely recognized as the hormone that creates sex drive; however, we should differentiate between sex drive and sexual desire. One can have sexual desire without much sex drive. This can happen in the case of erectile dysfunction, whereas the man is lacking the ability to create and sustain an erection, but is still interested in sex. Then there's the case of those who might experience a lack of sexual interest, not a lack of sex drive.... this can happen a lot with both sexes.</p>
<p><b>Reason 3. Lack of sex drive due to decreased testosterone. Solution: Do everything you can to physically and mentally stay interested in sex.</p></b>
<p>When you're dating it's simple. In a <a href="http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/in-speed-dating-study-testosterone-rises-in-both-sexes-as-love-ignites.aspx">recent study</a>, it was determined that when two people meet and experience mutual attraction, their testosterone levels spike! If only one person felt an attraction, and the other did not; however, there was no elevation in the levels of testosterone. So simply put, when there was a probability of sex, the body responded favorably to make this happen.</p>
<p>Let's face it, lower levels of testosterone can completely kill a sexual relationship, so understanding the physiology of sex certainly can't hurt. As with our overall health, a healthy diet and exercise is crucial in regulating and maintaining our hormone levels. Anti-depressants and birth control are known to decrease desire, but are part of many American couples lives, so make sure you combat these medications by staying healthy. Stress can cause a huge strain on relationships and sexual desire, do whatever you can to keep the stress levels down.</p>
<p>But there are times of the month, as well as in life, when women's testosterone levels increase. <i>(Yay for the guys who are married to them!)</i> Just before ovulation (which would be when she is most fertile) testosterone is prevalent, but as her ovulation cycle comes to an end, estrogen levels drop resulting in less lubrication. (not fun) <b><i>So guys: If you'd like to increase your chances of getting laid, hit your wife up between the 24th day of her menstrual cycle, and the 14th day of her next month's cycle. Show her that you still think she's a hot piece of ass (i.e.:send those mating hormones into hyperdrive), and don't give her all the same moves. Send her sexy messages throughout the day (be cautious with your chosen words, she may not like porn chatter during kid hours), touch her in ways that are non-sexual, compliment her, look her in the eyes, make her laugh. Change it up, make an effort, make her feel desired, and let the fun begin. </i></b></p>
<p>Ladies, if your man is seemingly less interested in sex, consider the changes <i>his</i> body might be experiencing. As men age, they too have a decrease in testosterone. They may be less interested in sex, loose head and body hair, feel tired even though they get enough sleep, have trouble staying focused, loose muscle mass, gain more body fat, all of which can also make daddy feel not so sexy... <b><i>How can you help?! Boost his ego with <a href="http://askmiyoko.blogspot.com/2013/12/the-ultimate-sexy-selfie-um-and-how-to.html">sexy text messages, pictures</a>, and mental stimulation throughout his day. Tell him things that you know will drive him crazy. Let him know you're thinking about sex! Men are very visual creatures, paint a picture for him of what lies ahead... and give detailed descriptions.</b></i></p>
<p>Then there's the not so easy part to explain, the part that requires more than just a bucket of sex toys, a babysitter, and a bottle of wine. Resentments, infidelity, emotional needs that are not being met...</p>
<p><b>Reason 4. You have issues.... Solution: see a couples counselor. Your relationship was worth it at some point, even if it doesn't feel like it now... and if it's not worth salvaging, you'll be having single sex soon enough anyway.</p></b>
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