Miyoko's Last Minute Holiday Gift Guide!- Start the new year off with a BANG!

Gift giving can be precarious… what do you get to the person you lay down next to every night, and wake up to every morning. What gift says, “I love you.” But also, “I WANT YOU!!!” What gift would she actually appreciate and want to use with you.

Definitely don't expect to send that message with something practical like a toaster, or a scarf. Women can be a challenge to buy for, but ultimately, we want more intimacy. We crave connection, want to feel desired, and to experience mind-blowing sex. So what can you give to the object of your affection that won't make her feel objectified?And what can you do for her this holiday that won't empty out your wallet?!

First, my top pics...

1. Liberator bedroom shapes-I love the functionality of these positionary aids. The positions and possibilities are endless, but the support of the foam pillow allows you to hit the right spots, while sustaining the angle until she gets her beloved "O." Oral sex, missionary, doggie style... all made better by one simple shape.

2. Vesper by Crave-this whisper quiet, exquisite piece of art won't break the bank, but will show your goddess how much you love her sexy side. Rechargeable via USB cable, this fine piece of "O" inducing ass provides clitoral stimulation or sensual vibrating insertion anytime throughout the day. Give her the gift of pleasure at her fingertips, and trust me, she'll return the favor.

3. Bubble Love-This truly and completely submergeable toy provides a bubble blast to your clitoris. For the women who like water play, this device can be used in the tub, and provides an added bonus to your relaxing bath. Forget Calgon..Bubble Love take me away. Dildo attachment is also available for those who like a little

4. Embrace Body wand by Cal Exotics-This rechargeable cordless vibrating handheld massager is powerful enough to work out the kinks in your neck, but also for ensuring an orgasm every time!! Handheld plug-in massagers are discreet enough to leave out on the bedside table, and powerful enough to potentially bring him to hand free climax.... um, yeah... highly recommended.

5. Intro to S&M Kit by Sex & Mischief-a great way to introduce light bondage into your bedroom play! Fur-lined handoffs make restraining sexy, while the blindfold allows for sensory deprivation experience, and the black leather whip provides a light tickle as it dances over your lover's flesh, or a sting as it whips their body in various places. You decide the level of play, and of course, always have a safe word.

Next, the amazing products I had the pleasure to review for this Holiday Season...

1. Ovo Lifestyle Toys-a brand I was familiar with, but had no tactile knowledge of. This gorgeous collection of USB charged and battery operated products are made of 100% body safe materials. High grade medical silicone cover most of these sleek and sensual toys. Just touching the toys themselves inspired my vagina. They have a very sexy design that spark sexual energy, and can be used to stimulate multiple areas of the body. If she's really into oral sex, gift her the S1... and watch her orgasm from powerful flickering tongue-like sensations. Wanna play together? Grab an A1 and experience the luxury together.

2. Cal Exotics Entice vibes and light bondage accessories-these ultra sexy products beg to be played with...toys and tools to bring your Fifty Shades inspired fantasy to reality. The silky brocade bar gag is enough to get the point across without making breathing difficult, and making them look oh so seductively restrained. Feathered nipplets are adjustable to accommodate different sized nipples, and can be used as decorative jewelry or to create an actual pinch.

3. Screaming O-inexpensive but quality toys that make sex fun and pleasurable! I love this brand!! All of their couples rings and vibrators come with batteries, so you're all set to play! Small enough to fit into a stocking, or grab a few and box them up for a night of festive fun! The Vibro-man is a trio of vibrations. The kit includes a cock ring, a finger vibe, and a tongue vibe, so that everywhere you touch, with any part of your body, sends pleasurable vibes.

4. Dreamgirl International-Sexy Holiday lingerie and themed attire make playing Ms. Santa even more hot. Their one size fits most pieces (Plus line also available) are well made and include most of the accessories you'll need to pull the look off!

What to give that “special friend.” Do you need to give a gift to your fuck buddy? Friends with benefits? We polled several people and while some said “yes, something sexy,” and others said “No!” We all seemed to agree that IF you decide to gift to your sexy friend, it should revolve around sex. Romantic gifts, or sentimental gifts can be sketchy…. let’s face it, we don’t want to send the wrong message and risk losing the sexual relationship.

And lastly, what to gift to your lover that won't empty out your wallet? With communication being the key to great sex... most of what we crave is simply the idea of being desired.

1. Leave them a romantic love note, or wrap it up top it off with a bow!

2. Send them a sexy text message! If they're into dirty talk, this is even more of a treat!

3. Take a bath with them... pour your favorite drink of choice, light some candles, and just soak and talk... and let the stress of the holidays roll off, while the magic of reconnection rolls in...

4. Give them a sensual massage. And we don't mean it has to come with a happy ending. Really do something just for their pleasure... make it all about pampering them.

5. Feed them. Food has so many underlying messages and sexy undertones. Nourish them, tease them, delight their tastebuds... (and if you need help with food ideas, read this post about playing with food.) To hear the entire show about buying holiday gifts for your lover, listen to episode 18 on Play With Me on Playboy Radio!

Tune in Tokyo! Breast and Nipple play

We all remember the scene from Girl’s Just wanna have fun where the line, “Wanna play tune in Tokyo?” is delivered…. unless you’re simply not as old as I am… in which case, I’ll explain. Tune in Tokyo was the guy’s way of getting her hands up out of the way so he could cop a feel, and essentially play with the girl’s nipples. Men are notoriously fascinated with boobs, tits, fun bags, whatever other way you’d like to refer to breasts. But along with breasts, come the delicious little nubs of pleasure and delight, called nipples.

Nipples don’t get nearly enough play time. Generally when people talk about sex, it’s straight up P to V…. in different positions, if you’re lucky. And then if you’re really blessed, you might be able to include oral sex. I’m all about playing, and when I refer to sex, it includes any and every possible scenario! So let’s discuss the possibility and potential of nipple orgasms. Is it possible for a women to reach orgasm through the stimulation of her nipples alone?

According to fMRI studies, the same area of the brain is activated through nipple stimulation as is during clitoral, and vaginal stimulation. The sensory cortex is the activated in the same way during nipple stimulation, as it is during clitoral, vaginal, and cervical stimulation. So…. YES!!! You can orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.

I must say however that tweaking a nipple, sucking it briefly during foreplay, and sucking it during sex for a moment does not constitute nipple play. Guys, does licking the tip of your penis equal a blow-job? Would grazing your anus with a tongue during a blow-job equal a rim-job? I think not. So unless you’re really focusing your attention on the nipples for a solid 10 minutes, it doesn’t count as nipple play.

That being said: Here are five tips for bringing them to orgasm through nipple stimulation.

1. Get them ready to play-kiss them deeply, touch their body, whisper in their ear.

2. Spend time lick and massaging the entire breast, without touching their nipples.

3. Lap their nipples and all around the areola with a flat, soft, wet tongue.

4. Use the thumb and fore-finger to lift the nipple off the breast, and flick and suck the nipples alternately.

Keep going…. invest the time, keep licking and sucking the nipples to bring them to orgasm.

If your nipples, or your partners nipples aren’t as sensitive as you would like. Nipple clamps can be a great tool to create sensitivity. We reviewed the feather nipple clamps on Playboy Radio, and it got rave reviews! The sexy black feather tickler can be used all over the body to tickle and tease, and the adjustable clamps accommodate most all sizes of nipples! The tension can also be adjustable providing as little or as much pinch as you desire.

Click on the video below and hear what our panelists had to say.

To purchase any of these products, message me for details, or shop online and enter coupon code: PLAYME for free shipping on your entire order.

Hear the entire show on Episode 8 on my show Play With Me on Playboy Radio.

Wanna Own their Ass this Valentine's Day?!

Okay, so some of these gifts will literally have you owning their ass, but there are also some gifts that will figuratively have them in the palm of your hand too...Here are my picks for sexy fun gifts this Valentine's Day!

Why get stuck doing the same 'ole thing? Skip the "usual" roses and candy, and go for something with a little more pizazz and originality!

If you want to REALLY blow her mind?! Get her a gift that shows her how much her happiness means to you...Let me introduce you to the Duet, a top of the line vibrator that has everything she's ever wanted. Quality, style, function, discretion, and power are all included in this whisper quiet, waterproof vibrator.

She can use it solo, or with you, and will love the custom message you have engraved right onto the handle of her precious metal. Completely waterproof when assembled, the silicone tip has dual motors, and charges with a USB connection so she'll never have to worry about batteries again.

Not sold? Go for a variation of candy and roses...

This Naughty Candy heart butt plug sends your message loud and clear, but with the innocence of our favorite conversation candies! Made of safe, soft silicone, and designed for ease of insertion and comfort.

If she's buying it... I recommend inserting before the clothes come off, so he can discover his sexy surprise when he unwraps you!

If he's buying it... proceed with caution, anal sex can be a touchy subject! If it's a new topic for you, combine this toy with a few other choices of play things so she doesn't feel backed into a corner. A goody bag of lube, another external vibrator, and a couples ring would be an excellent selection of choices so she can decide how she wants to play.

I can't speak for your woman, but I don't want a bouquet of long stem roses on Valentine's Day (or any other day, not my flower). I'd much rather my man spend his hard earned cash on a gift that won't wilt, and be tossed in the trash in a week or two. This gorgeous glass rose is designed to give years of pleasure. It's bulbous tip is perfect for teasing her external parts, and then when she's nice and relaxed, going in for the kill. The solid shaft will hold it's shape while her muscles contract around the varying shapes. Glass is completely non-porous and will not harbor bacteria, making this toy safe for either vaginal or anal play. Make sure it only goes V to A, not A to V without being sanitized first! Glass is also a wonderful product for temperature play. It is cool to the touch and warms to one's body temperature, or can be manipulated by a glass of warm water or cold water by the bed.

If she's buying it... Place it on the table as a centerpiece for your seductive candlelit dinner for two, then ask your Valentine to show you what it's really for.

If he's buying it... tie a bow around it and present it to her when the time is right! Don't "shove" it anywhere, show her it can be a delicate flower, and use it to caress her face while you whisper in her ear all the things you want to do to her.

Nothing says love like cuffs! These cute stretchy cuffs aren't aggressive restraints, but instead are a sexy suggestion that you're willing to do anything for your Valentine. The elastic bands can be worn on wrists or small ankles and the sexy red satin can be tied into a bow.

If she's buying it... after dinner slip into something a little more comfortable, and slide these onto your wrists and present yourself to your Valentine!

If he's buying it...gift wrap these with a sexy bit of lingerie you want to see her wearing. Don't worry about what she likes, get her something that you want to see her in, and tell her how excited you'll be when you get to tear it off of her!

Want more than just a suggestion of submission? The "Forget the Roses" Gift set includes lots of playful options! A Rubber Tickler, Red Bondage kit, 4-Ring Cock Cage, Feathered Nipple Clamps, Adjustable Rope restraint, Elastabind for ankles and wrists, a 3-piece tether kit, Jeweled Flogger, and Red Silky Sashes Bulk. It even comes wrapped up in a gift box and bow!

Whoever is buying this... lay it on top of the bed, or your favorite playroom! You guys are pros, you can figure out the scenario!

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Fifty Shades of Grey Inspired Challenge

Are you ready to take on the Grey?!

Does your bedroom routine need a make-over? Feeling like you've lost the excitement and spontaneity in your relationship? This 30-day challenge might just add the passion and romance you're looking for. Whether you've read the books, liked the books, are into bondage play or not, the scenes from the series have definitely lit a fire in the pants of women all across the country. While you may not have a Christian Grey laying next to you at night, you can create the sex you desire by implementing some of these... ahem, tools.

For this 30-day challenge, you will need a few things...

Grey tie, silk sash, or other restraint. (a different color tie, scarves, etc. will do)

handcuffs and/or cable ties (ouch!)

bed restraints, spreader bar, or comparable restraints

crop whip and/or flogger

Pleasure balls

Vibrating anal toy, or metal butt plug

Magic wand or other vibrator

razor and shaving cream

ice

sexy food

access to a bathtub

How long this Challenge takes is entirely up to you!

You may do them all in a matter of weeks, or you may decide you like it so much that you continue your Grey Challenge for the rest of your intimate lives. Yes, it could be THAT good. So how do you get started?

Challenge #1-Communication

Christian Grey is an excellent communicator. Just one of the things women love about him. He spells out exactly what he wants, and asks Anastasia to agree to a contract so that nothing is vague. As you journey into your world of Grey, I suggest you communicate your needs, desires, and yes, limits, with your partner. You don't need to have written contract, but it does add a nice touch!

Challenge #2-A gentle restraint

One of the first things Christian does to Anastasia is to tie her up with his grey silk necktie so she can't touch him. he then leaves while he goes to get an iced cold drink (yes, it's obvious where we're going here). Upon his return she is giddy with anticipation. What will he do next?! As expected, he sensually teases and stimulates her with the ice and his mouth. Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke may have done it best in 9 1/2 weeks, but ice play never disappoints. Later in the series he uses Metal Handcuffs and cable ties (from when he first goes to see her at the hardware store where she works), but these may leave marks, so if you don't want to have to explain, you might want to avoid these.

Challenge #3-Spank me Daddy,

While Christian Grey has a need to punish "little brown-haired girls," the sexy act of the spanking isn't lost on his psychological therapy. Anastasia is very turned on by the stinging slap he delivers to her soft pale flesh. She loves the care he takes to alternately spank and soothe her. Spanking can be done the wrong way; however, so if you're going to allow your partner to give you more than just a love pat, make sure to get some advice from the pros. Check out the Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook.

Challenge #4-Whip It Good

Crop whips and floggers, like the ones used in the book don't have to be as scary as they might sound. There are several beginner styles available and even the ones that can be used to create pain, can also be used to tickle and tease instead. The sound of the leather tapping your skin may be enough to get you off, but the sting of a good whip can really get the blood pumping. Drag a flogger up and down a naked body for stimulating effleurage. Play with a crop whip by giving a tap on the ass, on the clitoris, or on the breasts. Increase intensity depending on your level of tolerance and pleasure.

Challenge #5-Make me your slave

By using more than a gentle restraint, you become completely vulnerable to your partner. Make sure that you've discussed your soft and hard limits, that you completely trust your partner, and that you have decided on a safe word before getting yourself into hardcore bondage. Even with some less serious equipment, you can be effectively bound and gagged, so don't think that even though you're not shackled to a wooden cross that you're not playing for real. Door restraints and bed restraints are perfect for keeping your arms and legs open and your body accessible to your lover while standing or laying down. You can be strapped in face up or face down, giving them full control. Anal sex might cross their minds, so make sure you've discussed this idea. In the book Ana finds his drawer of anal toys and is very intrigued. Later he finally uses a sleek vibrating metal plug on her, and she can't believe the pleasure it brings. Be sure when embarking on any kind of anal play, you use plenty of lube, and communicate well, to ensure that there is no damage done to this sensitive area. While a glass of wine is nice to relax you, too much alcohol can numb your body to the point that you don't know if it's hurting you. This thin skin tears easily, so make sure you're well aware of what's happening with your body.

Challenge #6-Shave it off

Christian Grey loves to bathe with Ana, and he does so several times in the trilogy. In one flashback, she remembers him shaving her. Shaving off your pubic hair creates a sensitivity that increases pleasure during intercourse. And if you're not already shaven, you may appreciate the visual of your newly naked genitalia. Make it an event, and shave each other. Be sure to have plenty of shave cream, a sharp razor, and a slow hand. Nobody wants a quick shave when there's a blade near their most intimate parts. The only drawback to this sexy scenario is the regrowth. So make sure you use some rash free shave products to reduce or eliminate ingrown hairs and razor burn... ouch.

Challenge #7-Get cooking!

Not only do Christian and Ana have some thrilling moments in the sack, but they also have some out of the bed/playroom. Having sex in places outside of the privacy of a closed room brings on a whole new element of excitement. Get your sexy on in the kitchen! Blindfold your lover and fulfill them with decadent foods (again, it's been done before on the big screen, but who doesn't like a good feeding?) Don't worry about making a mess, or doing the dishes. Get messy in the easiest room in the house to hose down.

Challenge #8-Wear me out

One of Ana's favorite experiences is when Christian has her wear pleasure balls. He does it when they are headed out for a night with his family.... brilliant. Prolonging her pleasure makes for even more explosive sex later. Try wearing pleasure balls out to dinner, or to a work related event. The weighted presence of these nifty balls will provide a gentle vibration throughout the night. Your movement creates their movement. This will bring on a secret excitement between the two of you, since nobody else will know why you're smiling. :) Then when it finally comes time for the long awaited satisfaction, remove the balls and replace them with him.

Challenge #9-Elevator Sex

Mr. Grey is right, "There's just something about elevators." Whether you're in an elevator alone, or with a bunch of strangers, there's a strange urge to do something bold. Maybe it's that you're in a confined space and time is limited, or maybe we've watched too many movies. Elevator flirtations make for amazing foreplay, so give it a try next time you're staying out of town, or headed down from the rooftop bar.

Challenge #10-Try not to come

What Christian enjoys immensely is having control and possession over Ana's pleasure. He repeatedly tells her that she is not to touch herself when he's not with her, and then instructs her when to come, or not, during their love making. While this task is not an easy one (hence, the "challenge"), it can be fun to test your will power. I'm sure we've all prolonged an orgasm or two, but can you do it when you're being pleasured by a Magic Wand? The one he uses in the book HAS to be a Hitachi, or something like it, but with that much power, you'll most likely have no say over the matter. You're coming whether you want to or not. So try something less intense like a clitoral stimulator that he can hold against you. Try not to come, until he give you permission. Do the same for him. You know when he's about to make his final plunge before climax, see if he can hold off until you give him the magic word.

Challenge #11-Car Sex

High speed car chases can make a gal horny, but Christian always plays it safe. They pull into a parking garage before going at it. Car sex, while uncomfortable, is always hot. Blow jobs and hand jobs while driving can be dangerous, so be cautious when taking on this challenge. Park in your own driveway, or find a parking garage of your own. Make sure you wear a skirt for easy access without having to get completely naked. If you happen to have a sexy car, take it outside onto the hood! Just be sure the engine's cooled off.

Challenge #12-Make Love

For a few people, this might be the hardest challenge of all. By making love to your partner, you put yourself in an emotionally vulnerable position. By opening your heart to your partner, you share a spiritual bond that allows you to breathe each other in, dive into their soul, and interact with them in a way that might be too scary for some. Christian was never able to "make love" to anyone before he met Ana, and he embarked on a new journey of his own while she began her sexual life. They had many firsts together because of this. Even if you've been with your partner for years, there's still plenty of "firsts" that the two of you can share together. Be open to the possibility of becoming closer to your lover, take on the challenge of being more committed, more honest, and more sexual with one another and see where this journey takes YOU!

Why women love Fifty Shades of Grey, and how to have your own Mr. Grey

With the latest craze of trilogies centered around erotic fiction, it's a wonder how the Fifty Shades of Grey became so popular. I hear women saying, "Isn't it just porn?" Well, not exactly. Like porn, erotic fiction doesn't always include a good story, in fact, some can be downright ridiculous. Fifty Shades isn't an exceptional book (sorry fans). It's not an amazing piece of literature, or a profound story. I will say that I have enjoyed reading the books, and love that suburbia is buzzing! What Fifty Shades does provide is a look into our intimate lives, and what might be missing for many American men and women.

Christian Grey is a gazillionare in this story, who's extremely handsome, sexy, talented, and sexually gifted (like many other men out there, I'm sure).... He meets a young virgin woman who challenges his normal behavior of contractual, consensual sexual relationships, because she's not into becoming is submissive. He is smitten by her, for reasons unknown, and decides to give it all up for the sake of love, and of course, her. It's definitely not a realistic love story, but what Fifty Shades readers are most drawn to, is the attention he lavishes on her, his interest in fulfilling her desires and giving her pleasure, and the sexcapades they embark on. Mr. Grey is a controlling man, who sets the stage for their love making (and fucking), on every occasion. The housewife in all of us loves the idea of not having to make a decision, initiate sex, or think, in general. He is lustfully attracted to her, and he tells her. He is very communicative about his desires. What he will do to her, how she makes him feel, how she looks, how she smells.. all making Anastasia Steele feel wanted, loved, and desired in every way. Married women all around the globe miss the times in their lives where they may have known a lover who did the same, or long for a lover who would make them feel that way. *Lovers take note- if your wife or girlfriend is reading this book with fervor, she may want some of the banter, flirtations, and compliments that Mr. Grey bestows upon his Ana. So ladies, this doesn't mean our men are solely responsible for creating these Mr Grey fantasies. There's nothing stopping you from texting a quick flirtation, or answering in a suggestive manner the next time your husband communicates with you. Tell him what you want, ask for what you want, and let him become the lover you want him to be. Highlight your favorite scenes in the book, and leave the book on his side of the bed with a note saying that you'd love for him to do this to you. If you don't create the space for your lover to appear, he won't. If you say to yourself that your husband would never fuck you like Mr. Grey, he won't. Give him the tools, show up for him too, and see what kind of "kinky fuckery" the two of you can create.... but what about props? If you don't have a Red Room of Pain and you'd like to turn your bedroom into your very own playroom, there are tons of products out there than can be discreetly installed. Door play kits will do if you don't have wall shackles to restrain your lover to. Bed restraint kits are perfect for people without four-posted bed frames, and of course, there's a full selection of starter whips, floggers, and paddles for fun fantasy play. For more intricate tools and heavier duty restraints, you may want to check out JT's Stockroom. And if you need any of the products from the book to make this happen, I'm just a phone call or email away, or you can shop discreetly online :) We will also be holding a book discussion at the studio this summer, so stay connected via Facebook for all the details! We'll be starting our Fifty Shades of Grey Inspired Challenge soon, where you can act out all the scenes from the books, igniting the passion in your relationship.