Monday, August 30, 2010

L'Amour... in case you wanted to fall in love?

Personally I'd prefer to keep my romantic notions away from my sex toys, but there are some that had me at hello. This one feels like you're being french kissed.... in the vagina.

The new silicone multi-function vibe is a sexy and smooth shaft with powerful clitoral ticklers. Normally adorned with two rabbit ears, this vibe has three ticklers to fully encase the clitoral hood. There are easy to use power, vibration, and rotation buttons on the battery controller base. So for those of us who just start smashing buttons to make our high-tech vibes start or stop, be relieved.

I was excited to watch the sensual rotation of the shaft, it appears as though to have a snake-like wave along with the rotation. It might be an optical illusion as the tip of the shaft has a slightly larger thumb-shaped bulge. If the slight churning doesn't do it for you, you can bend the shaft to create larger circles of rotation without damaging the toy. The motor on the shaft is not as impressive as the power bumper, but if you relax your vaginal muscles, it shouldn't stop while penetrating. Of course, you may not have a choice once the clitoral vibrations kick you into muscle-contracting orgasms! They will at least slow down a bit, if not stop completely.

This toy is waterproof, so feel confident while washing, but as with most other "waterproof" toys, I wouldn't truly submerge unless you want to run the risk of losing your new investment.

Overall this toy's smooth shaft is thick enough to let you know it's there without being an obvious penetrator. Good for women who don't want the stuffing effect, but still want some vaginal and G-spot stimulation. Not a hard-core pounding, this one lives up to it's name. It's a toy for lovers.

The Teenage Sex Alternative

MTV's Teen Moms may be a show designed to chronicle the difficulties of being a teen mom, but I wonder if the impact of television and the media negates the point. Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston made headlines all over the world with their "shameful," yet "celebrated" teenage parenthood. While teenagers everywhere will get an education on young parenting, the delivery and sensationalism presenting the material is confusing.

I am all for young people having the support they need to raise a family. I believe in a woman's (or girl's) right to choose. I appreciate the stories that are shared and the difficult decisions that are involved in pregnancy at any age. I understand that many teenagers are faced with pregnancy, as there were many in my own graduating class. But I am baffled at the lack of sex education we are able, and willing, to present.

My own school district begins teaching basic sex education in 4th grade. But really it started back in Pre-school. My kids were segregated by sex at the age of three, teaching them the importance of gender classification. By First grade, they were read stories about men farmers who worked hard, and the female wives who cooked, cleaned, and raised the kids. It may not be the "birds and the bees," but it is every bit as influential on the overall message of sex in this country.

Instead of open discussions about sex, schools teach the biology of sex... heterosexual, procreating sex. Yes, it is the parent's option to have these conversations, and they should be the ones to create an open environment to discuss these topics. But let's face it, parents are not always qualified to be parents. Who showed us how to parent? Our own parents? Books written for the masses to create a safe and compliant society?

I have come to realize that what is needed is sex-positive education. Kids shouldn't just be taught how men and women have sex that leads to pregnancy; therefore, subliminally telling them they need the opposite sex to lead a fulfilling life. We should be teaching sexuality in all forms. Kissing, masturbation, same sex relations, and how to fulfill the emotional needs that are generally filled by premature sexual encounters.

We shut them off from sex toys and tell them to do their "private touching" behind close doors, and then we're surprised when they find another human being with whom to explore and discover their bodies?

Why not empower the sexuality of our teenagers? Create a judgement-free zone for them to have conversations about their needs, so they can find other safe ways to fulfill them. Then perhaps they won't have to face the more difficult choices of abortion, adoption, or teenage parenthood. It might be brutally uncomfortable at first, but in the end, we are here to teach our children about how to live a happy life.

Sex is a major component to adult relationships. Just like death, sex is inevitable. Instead of sheltering our youth and trying to suppress their natural desires, give them permission to have needs. Then hand them a masturbator sleeve, or a vibrator and send them to their rooms for private time. Sure it's scary to think of our babies getting it on with themselves, and I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but they're doing it anyway.