The Teenage Sex Alternative

MTV's Teen Moms may be a show designed to chronicle the difficulties of being a teen mom, but I wonder if the impact of television and the media negates the point. Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston made headlines all over the world with their "shameful," yet "celebrated" teenage parenthood. While teenagers everywhere will get an education on young parenting, the delivery and sensationalism presenting the material is confusing.


I am all for young people having the support they need to raise a family. I believe in a woman's (or girl's) right to choose. I appreciate the stories that are shared and the difficult decisions that are involved in pregnancy at any age. I understand that many teenagers are faced with pregnancy, as there were many in my own graduating class. But I am baffled at the lack of sex education we are able, and willing, to present.

My own school district begins teaching basic sex education in 4th grade. But really it started back in Pre-school. My kids were segregated by sex at the age of three, teaching them the importance of gender classification. By First grade, they were read stories about men farmers who worked hard, and the female wives who cooked, cleaned, and raised the kids. It may not be the "birds and the bees," but it is every bit as influential on the overall message of sex in this country.

Instead of open discussions about sex, schools teach the biology of sex... heterosexual, procreating sex. Yes, it is the parent's option to have these conversations, and they should be the ones to create an open environment to discuss these topics. But let's face it, parents are not always qualified to be parents. Who showed us how to parent? Our own parents? Books written for the masses to create a safe and compliant society?

I have come to realize that what is needed is sex-positive education. Kids shouldn't just be taught how men and women have sex that leads to pregnancy; therefore, subliminally telling them they need the opposite sex to lead a fulfilling life. We should be teaching sexuality in all forms. Kissing, masturbation, same sex relations, and how to fulfill the emotional needs that are generally filled by premature sexual encounters.

We shut them off from sex toys and tell them to do their "private touching" behind close doors, and then we're surprised when they find another human being with whom to explore and discover their bodies?

Why not empower the sexuality of our teenagers? Create a judgement-free zone for them to have conversations about their needs, so they can find other safe ways to fulfill them. Then perhaps they won't have to face the more difficult choices of abortion, adoption, or teenage parenthood. It might be brutally uncomfortable at first, but in the end, we are here to teach our children about how to live a happy life.

Sex is a major component to adult relationships. Just like death, sex is inevitable. Instead of sheltering our youth and trying to suppress their natural desires, give them permission to have needs. Then hand them a masturbator sleeve, or a vibrator and send them to their rooms for private time. Sure it's scary to think of our babies getting it on with themselves, and I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but they're doing it anyway.

Need a little tease? The perfect beginner toys

I often meet women at my parties who are shopping for their first vibrators. They generally sit respectfully listening to my presentation and are intrigued by the buzzing bullets and rockets that pass their way. By the time the rabbits are in their hands, their eyes begin to glaze over. Then when it's ordering time, their palms get sweaty and their stomachs get a little nervous as they ask me what the best recommendation is for a first time buyer.

Pocket rockets have always been a great beginner vibrator. It doesn't look like a vibrator, but is powerful enough to send them into clitoral orgasm. They can be tossed into a handbag, nightstand, or suitcase, and require little user education to get the job done.

The new Lil Teasers from Cal Exotics also have the same benefits, but instead of hard plastic are soft silicone.

They are only 3-4" in length, and turn on with a simple twist of the base. They are waterproof and come in three different styles, for whatever floats your boat. They can be used externally for clitoral stimulation, or inserted for vaginal, G-spot, or prostate stimulation.


As they are silicone, you should do a patch test with your silicone lubricants to ensure they will not alter the material. Water-based lubricants of all kinds can also be used. So grab your favorite flavored, warming, or stimulating lube and kick it up a notch!

Sex is Natural... your lube should be too.

As my quest for greener living ensues, I find myself contemplating personal pleasure lotions and products as I recommend them to others. Ultimately I have come to realize that there are so many things out there we could be afraid of and avoid, but we also have a lot of options for things that are less harmful to our bodies that can bring us so much joy! Be they foods, enhancement creams, or battery operated boyfriends.... everything in moderation.

That being said, my heart has fallen for a line of products that came out a few years ago, dedicated to using ingredients that are not know to cause health risks or infections in our lovely lady parts. When they hit the market with their line of sensual body products, I was thrilled. Now with the introduction of lubricants that warm, soothe, and protect, I am head over heels.

Intimate organics not only educates us about what is in our body products, but offers effective natural substitutes. Suburban housewives in my area were buzzing about the KY his and hers when their marketing campaign went into high gear, but soon afterward, I heard stories of women having to wash off the intense heat, or suffering from annoying reactions.... not so sexy.



May I introduce you to MELT?
This warming lubricant is true to it's name. And isn't that what we really want anyway? We don't want to light a fire in our vaginas, we just want them to melt.
...Like when Edward leans into Bella and doesn't kiss her....

Infused with Cinnomamum bark, this silky liquid warms the body and builds as the friction increases.




Need some protection?

Defense is a paraben and glycerin free water-based lubricant with sea kelp and guava bark. Use this lube to help maintain healthy floras and protect the delicate balance of your vaginal bacteria. Yes, I just said that.

For those of us gals who are sensitive to toys and creams, this lube is a blessing.


Feeling adventurous?
Soothe is a plant derived glycerin lubricant designed to enhance anal play. It contains guava bark for it's antibacterial properties. Combine this lube with the Adventure Anal Relaxing spray and experience forbidden pleasures like never before. Here's what Intimate Organics has to say about their anal spray:

Intimate Organics understands that anal sex for women is becoming more popular and losing its stigma. However, many products on the market are simply not safe. Unlike other anal sprays or creams that can numb the sphincter and cause tearing, our natural spray causes no anesthetic effects. The anal sphincter becomes relaxed and therefore penetration becomes comfortable. Intimate Organics anal relaxing spray’s unique formula contains a certified organic extract blend with the natural potency of clove, goji berry, aloe, and lemongrass. Intimate Organic’s natural anal spray relaxant does not contain the synthetic compound benzocaine.

What better way to increase the pleasure of your intimate life? Give Intimate Organics lubricants a try and feel the difference for yourself.

Wanna get drilled?

Not the most romantic thing you've ever heard, I'm guessing? (And with the current situation in the Gulf, you might be afraid of bursting something and having uncontrolled leakage.) If you can set aside your need for seduction, and your environmentally friendly brain...you may just find some mind-blowing orgasms.


The new Power Bumper is far from sexy, but big on satisfaction. It actually doesn't look that intimidating, right? Cute little pink bumps on what appears to be a regular multi-function vibe.... but when you power it up, you'll want to make sure you've got time to spend with your new friend. The vibrating clitoral stimulator isn't low-to-high speed, it's low and high frequency. An option rarely seen in the world of pleasure products. Either setting is extremely powerful, for those of you who need some intense vibrations, but the difference in frequencies is truly an experience.

Then comes the shaft....
We've seen the rotating ball bearings and jumbling pearls, but this baby has rotation that doesn't give. Many times you can grab the shaft of a multi-function vibe and stop the pearls or balls from rotating. The Power Bumper continues drilling no matter how hard you squeeze! I don't think I need to express to the ladies what a fabulous feature this is! The hundreds of tiny bumps that adorn the entire unit make for a textured shag you won't forget. Make sure to use some lubrication prior to insertion, or wait for your body to be naturally ready and lubricated for action, otherwise the initial penetration might be less than pleasurable.

Cal Exotics says it's made of unscented TPR, but the scent when first opened is a little pungent. It's material is a thin "skin" over the mechanics, and is easy to clean before and after use. It take four AA's to power up this hard core lover, but you won't be disappointed that you had to steal them out of BOTH of your remote controls.


Want one of your own? Contact me to find out where to get it.

When batteries just don't cut it...

Let's face it gals, when it's good, it's GOOOOOOD. Nothing feels quite like the body paralyzing vibrations that can be attained from the power of an electric vibrator. These power tools are no longer big cumbersome back massagers, they are made from high grade materials, in sleek designs and compact sizes for comfortable solo play.



The Inspire from the Couture Collection by Cal Exotics is nothing short of toe-curling! The flexible head is made of silicone for a velvety soft touch and safe play. The power cord is long enough to plug in by the bed, and layback comfortably or stretch over you to stimulate your partner! Or, I guess you could use it to actually massage your back.... if you're into that kind of thing....

Guys, don't be jealous! Some of the best things come in small packages. This compact massager is great for you too! Have you ever wondered what it would be like to experience her total body orgasms? Now's your chance. Grab a hold of this electric massager and place it at the base of the shaft on your pubic bone and push the powerful vibrations into your pelvis as you work your hand stroking magic.

Make it a "couples" toy and follow the instructions above, but instead of adding hand strokes, have her sit on top. You'll both be riding the wave of pleasure in record time.

WARNING: you could do this all day, and it may become addictive, so play with caution! You may also experience temporary numbness, but you won't lose your ability to orgasm normally... unless you become an addict and use your electric vibe nonstop....Did I mention you should play with caution?

Disposable Pleasures

We're used to throwing away all kinds of things to make life easier, but there was never a disposable masturbator.... until now.



Introducing the Tenga line of disposable male masturbators! These single shot devices were designed with the occasional masturbator in mind. Inexpensive enough for a night of solo pleasure, or a special occasion... but a little too pricey for the frequent um...jerker.

Available in different styles to suit every stroke. The Deep Throat cup delivers exactly what it promises, a intense suction with "special" suction valves inside to create this amazing sensation. You can even increase the suction by using the air hole at the top of the cup... just cover it with a thumb or finger and feel the "jaws" tighten around your member. They come in soft, hard, and the US versions (20% larger) in ultra-size and super vacuum. Don't mind the slurping sounds-it just makes the fantasy more realistic.

Need more options? Try the Double Hole Cup, the Air Cushion, the Soft Cup, or the Rolling Head Cup, all of which come pre-lubed and ready to enjoy. They are all equipped with Tenga's spongelike material, making them gentle lovers. So if you've been turned off by the hard plastic sleeves, it may be time to give Tenga a try. Afterall, you're just gonna toss it when you're done.

Check out these video demos of these scientifically designed masturbators!

Save your Marriage with Sex Toys!

Can a battery operated lover really reignite passion in an otherwise lust-less marriage? Absolutely!

With all the rumors of infidelity swarming around, you might be wondering if your sex life needs a makeover. Well, considering many women and men have admitted to straying because they are bored... it's not a bad idea to spice things up now and then.

Intimate products were designed for the majority of married couples where one or both partners are experiencing less than satisfying orgasms, or excitement in the relationship. Most products are also created with women in mind, allowing them to reach climax, thus creating the ability for emotional connection with their spouse.

So, which products should you introduce to your bed? It all depends on what needs you're trying to meet.

If you're a woman who is not achieving orgasm during lovemaking, don't worry, you're not alone. While a reported 70-80% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach climax, many women still feel that they are less qualified lovers because they do not orgasm through penetration alone. Relax ladies, your inability to have mind blowing O's by his pounding is completely normal. And guys, news flash... that pounding isn't what's going to get us off most likely.

While most of the nerve endings are located at the introitus, or the opening of the vagina, many men still focus on deep penetration. Deep penetration is great for stimulating the G-spot and giving her a place to grind her needy clitoris (against your pubic bone), but if she requires some manual stimulation with a finger or toy, it's hardly cutting the mustard.

Vibrating enhancement rings and mini vibrators can be perfect helpers for this kind of stimulation. The ring is worn at the base of the shaft of the penis, and the vibration directly stimulates her clitoris. If you're using a small or slender vibe, just place it strategically on the clitoris, but far enough that it doesn't get caught in the action. She won't need long to get that happy feeling, then he can do his pounding, and everyone's happy. She may want to cuddle afterward, so give her that moment to collect herself. The next time you want to play, guess who will be all the more ready?!

Fulfill fantasies with molded toys! Have a threesome without the jealousy. Molded toys have visual qualities that help bring our fantasies to life. Do you or your partner want to experience a threesome, but only in theory? Grab a realistic penis or vagina and talk out your fantasies together!

Which ones to avoid if one or both of you are feeling less in lust? Don't break out the Jack Rabbit with 100's of functions and speeds. He's not going to feel needed, and she may not be relaxed enough to share her orgasm with him. These can be amazing toys if everyone's on board, but if he's already feeling left out or pressured, this isn't a positive addition to your relationship.... yet!

How do you introduce the idea? Easy! With so many article and ads on radio and television showing these products, you won't seem off your rocker to suggest one. A sexy way to invite him to play would be to print out or cut out an ad for an item you like. Stick a post it note to it that reads, "this might be fun... can't wait for bedtime." and leave it somewhere he'll find it. Just make sure the kids don't find it first!