Thursday, June 21, 2012

Fifty Shades of Grey Inspired Challenge

Are you ready to take on the Grey?!

Does your bedroom routine need a make-over? Feeling like you've lost the excitement and spontaneity in your relationship? This 30-day challenge might just add the passion and romance you're looking for. Whether you've read the books, liked the books, are into bondage play or not, the scenes from the series have definitely lit a fire in the pants of women all across the country. While you may not have a Christian Grey laying next to you at night, you can create the sex you desire by implementing some of these... ahem, tools.

For this 30-day challenge, you will need a few things...

Grey tie, silk sash, or other restraint. (a different color tie, scarves, etc. will do)

handcuffs and/or cable ties (ouch!)

bed restraints, spreader bar, or comparable restraints

crop whip and/or flogger

Pleasure balls

Vibrating anal toy, or metal butt plug

Magic wand or other vibrator

razor and shaving cream


sexy food

access to a bathtub

How long this Challenge takes is entirely up to you!

You may do them all in a matter of weeks, or you may decide you like it so much that you continue your Grey Challenge for the rest of your intimate lives. Yes, it could be THAT good. So how do you get started?

Challenge #1-Communication

Christian Grey is an excellent communicator. Just one of the things women love about him. He spells out exactly what he wants, and asks Anastasia to agree to a contract so that nothing is vague. As you journey into your world of Grey, I suggest you communicate your needs, desires, and yes, limits, with your partner. You don't need to have written contract, but it does add a nice touch!

Challenge #2-A gentle restraint

One of the first things Christian does to Anastasia is to tie her up with his grey silk necktie so she can't touch him. he then leaves while he goes to get an iced cold drink (yes, it's obvious where we're going here). Upon his return she is giddy with anticipation. What will he do next?! As expected, he sensually teases and stimulates her with the ice and his mouth. Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke may have done it best in 9 1/2 weeks, but ice play never disappoints. Later in the series he uses Metal Handcuffs and cable ties (from when he first goes to see her at the hardware store where she works), but these may leave marks, so if you don't want to have to explain, you might want to avoid these.

Challenge #3-Spank me Daddy,

While Christian Grey has a need to punish "little brown-haired girls," the sexy act of the spanking isn't lost on his psychological therapy. Anastasia is very turned on by the stinging slap he delivers to her soft pale flesh. She loves the care he takes to alternately spank and soothe her. Spanking can be done the wrong way; however, so if you're going to allow your partner to give you more than just a love pat, make sure to get some advice from the pros. Check out the Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook.

Challenge #4-Whip It Good

Crop whips and floggers, like the ones used in the book don't have to be as scary as they might sound. There are several beginner styles available and even the ones that can be used to create pain, can also be used to tickle and tease instead. The sound of the leather tapping your skin may be enough to get you off, but the sting of a good whip can really get the blood pumping. Drag a flogger up and down a naked body for stimulating effleurage. Play with a crop whip by giving a tap on the ass, on the clitoris, or on the breasts. Increase intensity depending on your level of tolerance and pleasure.

Challenge #5-Make me your slave

By using more than a gentle restraint, you become completely vulnerable to your partner. Make sure that you've discussed your soft and hard limits, that you completely trust your partner, and that you have decided on a safe word before getting yourself into hardcore bondage. Even with some less serious equipment, you can be effectively bound and gagged, so don't think that even though you're not shackled to a wooden cross that you're not playing for real. Door restraints and bed restraints are perfect for keeping your arms and legs open and your body accessible to your lover while standing or laying down. You can be strapped in face up or face down, giving them full control. Anal sex might cross their minds, so make sure you've discussed this idea. In the book Ana finds his drawer of anal toys and is very intrigued. Later he finally uses a sleek vibrating metal plug on her, and she can't believe the pleasure it brings. Be sure when embarking on any kind of anal play, you use plenty of lube, and communicate well, to ensure that there is no damage done to this sensitive area. While a glass of wine is nice to relax you, too much alcohol can numb your body to the point that you don't know if it's hurting you. This thin skin tears easily, so make sure you're well aware of what's happening with your body.

Challenge #6-Shave it off

Christian Grey loves to bathe with Ana, and he does so several times in the trilogy. In one flashback, she remembers him shaving her. Shaving off your pubic hair creates a sensitivity that increases pleasure during intercourse. And if you're not already shaven, you may appreciate the visual of your newly naked genitalia. Make it an event, and shave each other. Be sure to have plenty of shave cream, a sharp razor, and a slow hand. Nobody wants a quick shave when there's a blade near their most intimate parts. The only drawback to this sexy scenario is the regrowth. So make sure you use some rash free shave products to reduce or eliminate ingrown hairs and razor burn... ouch.

Challenge #7-Get cooking!

Not only do Christian and Ana have some thrilling moments in the sack, but they also have some out of the bed/playroom. Having sex in places outside of the privacy of a closed room brings on a whole new element of excitement. Get your sexy on in the kitchen! Blindfold your lover and fulfill them with decadent foods (again, it's been done before on the big screen, but who doesn't like a good feeding?) Don't worry about making a mess, or doing the dishes. Get messy in the easiest room in the house to hose down.

Challenge #8-Wear me out

One of Ana's favorite experiences is when Christian has her wear pleasure balls. He does it when they are headed out for a night with his family.... brilliant. Prolonging her pleasure makes for even more explosive sex later. Try wearing pleasure balls out to dinner, or to a work related event. The weighted presence of these nifty balls will provide a gentle vibration throughout the night. Your movement creates their movement. This will bring on a secret excitement between the two of you, since nobody else will know why you're smiling. :) Then when it finally comes time for the long awaited satisfaction, remove the balls and replace them with him.

Challenge #9-Elevator Sex

Mr. Grey is right, "There's just something about elevators." Whether you're in an elevator alone, or with a bunch of strangers, there's a strange urge to do something bold. Maybe it's that you're in a confined space and time is limited, or maybe we've watched too many movies. Elevator flirtations make for amazing foreplay, so give it a try next time you're staying out of town, or headed down from the rooftop bar.

Challenge #10-Try not to come

What Christian enjoys immensely is having control and possession over Ana's pleasure. He repeatedly tells her that she is not to touch herself when he's not with her, and then instructs her when to come, or not, during their love making. While this task is not an easy one (hence, the "challenge"), it can be fun to test your will power. I'm sure we've all prolonged an orgasm or two, but can you do it when you're being pleasured by a Magic Wand? The one he uses in the book HAS to be a Hitachi, or something like it, but with that much power, you'll most likely have no say over the matter. You're coming whether you want to or not. So try something less intense like a clitoral stimulator that he can hold against you. Try not to come, until he give you permission. Do the same for him. You know when he's about to make his final plunge before climax, see if he can hold off until you give him the magic word.

Challenge #11-Car Sex

High speed car chases can make a gal horny, but Christian always plays it safe. They pull into a parking garage before going at it. Car sex, while uncomfortable, is always hot. Blow jobs and hand jobs while driving can be dangerous, so be cautious when taking on this challenge. Park in your own driveway, or find a parking garage of your own. Make sure you wear a skirt for easy access without having to get completely naked. If you happen to have a sexy car, take it outside onto the hood! Just be sure the engine's cooled off.

Challenge #12-Make Love

For a few people, this might be the hardest challenge of all. By making love to your partner, you put yourself in an emotionally vulnerable position. By opening your heart to your partner, you share a spiritual bond that allows you to breathe each other in, dive into their soul, and interact with them in a way that might be too scary for some. Christian was never able to "make love" to anyone before he met Ana, and he embarked on a new journey of his own while she began her sexual life. They had many firsts together because of this. Even if you've been with your partner for years, there's still plenty of "firsts" that the two of you can share together. Be open to the possibility of becoming closer to your lover, take on the challenge of being more committed, more honest, and more sexual with one another and see where this journey takes YOU!

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